Sunday, November 9, 2025

The Novelist’s Window - Manisha Khanna

Eli sat by his apartment window every night, watching the lights of the city flicker on. He often told his friends, “If I ever had the time, I’d write a novel.” They’d nod, envious of his poetic dream. But Eli never wrote a single line. His job was demanding, he said. His mind was too tired after work.

One evening, his old friend Mara visited. She listened as Eli spoke, again, of the book he would write someday — about a man who transforms his life.

“Then why don’t you start?” she asked simply.

Eli laughed. “You don’t understand. My childhood was strict. My parents never believed in me. I can’t just—”

Mara smiled gently. “You’re not your parents, Eli. You’re your choices.”

That night, her words kept echoing. You’re your choices.

He realised something unsettling — he wasn’t avoiding writing because of the past. He was afraid of the present. Afraid that if he tried and failed, he’d lose the comforting illusion that he could have been great. His “busy job” was his excuse, his shield against disappointment.

So he made a quiet decision. He turned off the TV, opened his laptop, and began typing. The words were clumsy, hesitant — but they were his.

For the first time, Eli felt something he hadn’t in years: freedom. Not from his past, but from the belief that his past defined him.

At dawn, he looked out the window again. The city was the same, but he was not.

He whispered to himself, “Happiness isn’t found. It’s chosen.”

1. Thematic Alignment with Adlerian Psychology

Strengths:

  • The story illustrates teleology (future-driven motivation) clearly.
    Eli’s turning point isn’t caused by resolving childhood trauma but by reinterpreting it — seeing his limitations as choices rather than determinants.

  • It reflects “lifestyle” as a chosen worldview.
    Eli’s excuse-making and self-limiting beliefs are portrayed as part of his unconscious lifestyle, which he then consciously re-chooses when he decides to write.

  • The moment of change (“He opened his laptop and began typing”) embodies the courage to change, a hallmark of Adlerian philosophy: action in the present moment, not waiting for circumstances or healing from the past.

Limitations:

  • While the story demonstrates Adlerian ideas well, it simplifies them. Real change, in Adler’s view, involves consistent action, social interest (community feeling), and purpose beyond the self. Eli’s transformation is very individualistic — it ends at self-liberation, not contribution to others.

  • The story omits the social dimension of Adlerian thought (Gemeinschaftsgefühl). Adler would argue that true happiness comes from connection and contribution, not merely personal self-realisation.

2. Psychological Realism

Strengths:

  • Eli’s fear of failure — choosing the safety of a dream over the risk of action — is psychologically authentic. It mirrors Adler’s insight that people “choose” unhappiness because it offers security and avoidance of pain.

  • The dialogue with Mara serves as the philosopher’s role in The Courage to Be Disliked: a catalyst for self-reflection, not a rescuer.

Weaknesses:

  • The emotional shift happens too abruptly. In reality, shifting from etiology to teleology (from past-determinism to goal-orientation) requires deep internal work and repeated courage. The “one-night change” might seem inspirational, but it lacks psychological nuance.

  • The story’s resolution — Eli feeling “free” after typing a few words — risks romanticising change as a single act of will, whereas Adlerian psychology views it as a lifelong process of choice and courage.

3. Literary Technique and Symbolism

Strengths:

  • The window is an apt metaphor: it separates Eli from the world he observes but doesn’t participate in — until he acts. When he writes, he symbolically steps through that window into life.

  • The story’s economy of language and quiet tone reflect introspection, fitting its philosophical theme.

Weaknesses:

  • The symbolic shift (darkness to dawn) is predictable. The story might benefit from more complexity — for instance, showing Eli facing discomfort or resistance after the initial act of courage, to deepen realism and tension.

4. Philosophical Critique

  • The story effectively rejects Freudian etiology — Eli’s past is acknowledged but not treated as causal. However, it could explore more critically why humans cling to causal narratives.

  • The conclusion — “Happiness isn’t found. It’s chosen.” — encapsulates Adler’s teleology but oversimplifies it into a motivational aphorism. Adler’s philosophy also emphasises responsibility and contribution, not just personal choice.

Conclusion: 

The Novelist’s Window succeeds as an accessible, illustrative parable of Adlerian teleology — capturing the moment of choosing freedom over fear. Yet, it simplifies the enduring, social, and process-oriented aspects of change that Adler emphasised. It’s philosophically sound but narratively tidy — an inspiring sketch rather than a psychologically complete portrait.

Manisha Khanna
Freedom begins the moment we choose purpose over excuse

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Why not join us next week?

We gathered to read  The Courage To Be Disliked, discuss Adlerian psychology and introduce Learning Forward's programs.

Key Takeaways

  • Adlerian Teleology: We are not controlled by the past (Freudian etiology) but move toward goals we set (teleology). Unhappiness is a choice, not a result of circumstances.
  • "Lifestyle" as a Choice: Personality is a chosen "lifestyle" (worldview and actions), not an unchangeable disposition. This choice, often made unconsciously around age 10, can be consciously re-chosen at any time.
  • Courage to Change: Change requires courage to face the anxiety of an unknown future. Sticking to an unhappy but familiar lifestyle is a decision to avoid this fear.
  • Learning Forward's Programs: The foundation offers three main programs: "Read and Lead" (Saturdays), "My Good School" (Sundays), and "The Teachers Academy" (professional learning).

Topics

Adlerian Psychology: Teleology vs. Etiology

  • The book's core concept is Adlerian teleology, which rejects Freudian etiology.
  • Etiology (Freud): We are controlled by past causes and trauma.
  • Teleology (Adler): We are driven by future goals we set. The past is not a determinant; it is the meaning we attribute to it that shapes our present.
  • Conclusion: Accepting etiology leads to nihilism and pessimism; embracing teleology affirms free will and the ability to change.

The Choice of Unhappiness

  • The youth's desire to be like "Y" (a bright, social person) is identified as self-hatred and a wish to be reborn.
  • The philosopher argues that unhappiness is a choice, not a result of circumstances.
  • Socratic Paradox: "No one desires evil."
    • Agathon (good) → beneficial.
    • Kakon (evil) → not beneficial.
    • People choose unhappiness because they perceive it as beneficial (e.g., avoiding rejection or criticism).

"Lifestyle" as a Chosen Personality

  • Adlerian psychology uses "lifestyle" to describe personality and disposition.
  • Lifestyle: A chosen worldview and outlook on life, not an unchangeable trait.
  • This choice is often made unconsciously around age 10, influenced by environment.
  • Implication: Since it's a choice, it can be re-chosen at any time.

The Courage to Change

  • People often resist change because it is scary and creates anxiety about an unknown future.
  • The Novelist Analogy: A friend dreams of being a novelist but uses a busy job as an excuse not to write.
    • Reason: To avoid the possibility of rejection and keep the dream of "I could do it if I tried" alive.
  • Conclusion: Unhappiness is not a lack of competence, but a lack of courage to be happy. Life is decided in the present moment.

Learning Forward Foundation Programs

  • Mission: Cultivate a community of readers and learners.
  • "Read and Lead" (Saturdays):
    • This session, part of "The Teachers Academy," is a weekly reading of The Courage to be Disliked.
    • Goal: Provide a dedicated space for mental grooming and reflection.
  • "My Good School" (Sundays):
    • Open to all ages (9–90) for reading and reflection.
  • "The Teachers Academy":
    • A professional learning program for educators.
    • Benefits: Access to Friday/Saturday sessions, mentorship, and a certificate of appreciation.
    • Contribution: A fee enables the foundation to fund "learning labs" and support teachers in economically disadvantaged schools.
  • Good Schools Alliance (GSA):
    • A membership for entire schools, providing access to all resources, retreats, and pilot programs.

Next Steps

  • Participants:
    • Join the "Read and Lead Masterclass 2026" WhatsApp community for updates.
    • Consider joining "The Teachers Academy" to access all programs.
    • Attend the "My Good School" session on Sunday (link will be shared).
  • Khushi (Student):
    • Write a reflection on the session for publication on the happyteacher.inblog.
  • Manisha (Admin):
    • Share the Sunday session link in the "Read and Lead" WhatsApp group.
Session Recording


REFLECTION ✨Session 02 of the Book Reading:
The Courage To Be Disliked 📕🔖
by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga*In this session, we delved into The First Night: Deny Trauma 🌙✨—a profound exploration of how to liberate ourselves from the shackles of the past. Through the timeless wisdom of Socrates and Adler, we were challenged to ask ourselves: Are you truly comfortable in your own skin? The session brought to light a striking truth—unhappiness is often a choice we make unwittingly, and many resist change simply out of habit or fear. It became clear that our lives are not dictated by past events but are forged in the crucible of the present moment.⭐ The session was not merely an intellectual exercise; it was a rich tapestry woven with philosophical insights and an enriching vocabulary that broadened our horizons. 🏷️⭐ A highlight was the dynamic dialogue between a Philosopher and a Youth, brilliantly enacted by Sandeep Sir and Gurdeep Ma’am—injecting life and warmth into complex concepts, making the experience both enlightening and engaging. 🎬🌷💎🪩 My Takeaways 🪩This journey gifted me with far more than new words—it bestowed a treasure trove of reflection-worthy concepts. 📎🔖 I realized that self-acceptance does not equate to complacency; rather, it is the fertile soil from which personal growth must spring. 🤍⚡There's no need for comparison or pretending to be someone else. The real victory lies in boldly stepping into the world as my authentic self. 😃✨I close this reflection with heartfelt gratitude to all mentors and fellow participants. Special thanks to Sandeep Sir for inspiring me to embark on this empowering reading journey—the most rewarding investment of time yet. 🎀💌📍With sincere regards,
Khushi
(A little reader with an insatiable thirst for knowledge) 💎🤍
- Khushi Kumari, Lotus Petal Foundation

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