How To Win Friends And Influence People

Respected Principal,


I offer you my heartiest congratulations for running an Institute of such a  high standard to groom your students academically so that they may succeed in various Competitive Examinations and also in their life.

The current Academic Session will be closing shortly, and the senior most class of your college/school will be leaving your Institute to face the competitions for career courses and then life as it confronts them.  It is customary that the final year class is given a valedictory send-off with all Good Wishes and Blessings by the Principal.

I hope you would feel delighted and honoured if any of your ex-students excel in their career and life. Then why not to help them to achieve that object?
I, therefore, take the liberty of suggesting you to please present them a priceless Memento in the form of a book entitled

This book has been bestseller ever since its publication more than seven decades ago. It has been translated into languages of the entire countries world over thus sold in millions.
This book guides its readers as to how to succeed in their professions and life by developing cordial relations with their Seniors, colleagues and juniors in service, customers in their business and clients in their job and also with their family members.
It will be a lifelong guide and companion of the young boys and girls passing out of your college/school. Not only that, its study will benefit all the members of their families irrespective their age, profession, religion, taste or sex. This book will be passed on to their next generations for their benefit.
Photographs of the School/College building and of the Principal with a farewell address to him/her and also of the members of Faculty affixed at the beginning of the book will add to its value. It will remind the students of their long association with their mentors Principal, Members of Faculty and the School.
I consider help to our youth to achieve success in their professions and life a noble cause. I, therefore, as my contribution towards that offer this book for Rs.65.00 only against its print price of Rs.125.00(About 50% Discount)

With best regards,
Yours sincerely
(M) 09914066069

Your Child's Health - Dr Gita Mathai

Thank you, Manoj Albert Jeyaraj for sharing.
Infants and toddlers who come to my clinic are often cranky. Instead of the old techniques of carrying them around, distracting them with toys, or my aquarium, today, more and more parents tackle these behaviour problems by immediately handing the child their smartphone. The child can barely walk or talk, but their podgy fingers swipe the screens expertly as they stare unblinkingly at the coloured images flashing on the screen. Parents think that this is a reflection of the intelligence of their toddler. This is far from the case. It is a disturbing and dangerous trend.

All electronic devices, cell phones, tabs or laptops emit MWR (microwave radiation). Long-term exposure to this radiation is carcinogenic. There is still speculation about exactly how much radiation is safe, with conflicting reports and claims.

A child's thin skull bones allow greater penetration of MWR. His or her nervous system and brain tissue absorb about two times more MWR than that of adults. His or her bone marrow absorbs ten times more radiation.

It is recommended that children under the age of two should not use cellphones at all. In all age groups, it is better to place cell phones a few inches away from the ear. They should be carried in backpacks or purses and not in pockets. In the case of laptops, computers and tablets, the minimum safe distance from the body is 20cm.

Tablets are even more popular than cell phones as pacifiers for children. They have a larger variety of passive and interactive programs. The screen is larger (more radiation), it is also held closer to the face (brain). Children soon learn to video themselves. They replay their own videos in a narcissist fashion. This negates the need for friendship or social interaction. They become self-absorbed, and since they are always in control of the happenings on the tab, they are unable to control their impulses. They do not interact with their peers or adults. Children learn and mature by watching adult social reactions to situations.

They become experts at swiping and tapping movements, usually with the dominant hand. Children constantly on these devices develop no dexterity or motor skills. They remain clumsy. They do not use their imagination to make believe and play. With no story telling or reading, lateral thinking, problem solving and the ability to learn maths and science are affected.

As the child becomes older, television replaces family interaction, play and even study time. Studies have documented that increased television viewing time delays and decreases the development of language, vocabulary and social skills. Some imitate the exaggerated facial contortions and staccato speech of cartoon characters.

Children under two years of age should not watch television at all. Those older than three years who watched an hour or more a day were found to fare poorly academically. Their educational achievements by the age of 26 are behind those of their peers. This is because, with television, everything is readily visible, and requires no analysis, reading or language skills. These areas of the brain lack stimulation and develop poorly.

There are educational programmes on television, specifically designed for children. These are seldom watched. Instead, the focus is on mindless serials, and cartoons with unrealistic situations, which can desensitise the child to violence.

Dependence on media for entertainment leads to social isolation and regression of skills essential for survival and success. Also, after school, homework, tuition and relaxation with television, there is no time physical exercise. This has led to an epidemic of unfit or obese children who develop lifestyle diseases in their twenties.

Dr Gita Mathai is a paediatrician with a family practice at Vellore. Questions on health issues may be emailed to her at , this article was first published in Telegraph India.

गुरु तेरे कितने रूप---

गुरु तेरे कितने रूप,
जितने भी हैं,सब हैं अनूप।
कभी प्रथम शिक्षिका बन,
माँ के रूप में आते हो।
कभी पिता बन,चलना,फिरना
जीवन की दौड़ सिखाते हो।

कभी धरा सी सहनशीलता।
नभ् सा विस्तार बताते हो।
कभी प्रकृति की छटा बन,
जीवन सिखला जाते हो।।
पुष्प से मुस्कान,
कांटो से कठिनाइयाँ
दरख्तों से कर्मठता समझाते।

तुम ही निराकार ब्रह्म हो,
तुम्ही हो साकार,
तुम ही सबके जीवन को,
देते नवाकार।
तुम बिन कैसे भला,
गोविन्द गीता कह पाते,
राम को राम बना,
श्री वशिष्ट तुम कहलाते।
तुम ही तममय् धरा पर,
एक स्त्रोत हो उजास का।

जो हीरा के गुण लिए
तुम साधन,
उस पाषाण की तलाश का।
तुम देते जीवन को दर्शन,
हर प्रतिबिम्ब का तुम हो दर्पण।
तुम हो ईश्वर,तुम हो मानव,
तुम तो हर कण-कण में हो।

तुम ही हो विष्णुस्परूप।
हे गुरु तेरे कितने रूप,
जितने भी हैं,सब हैं अनूप।।

---पूर्ति वैभव खरे--

Whispers From Nursery

Almost one and half year back i.e. April 2015, I joined N.S.N. A.V primary wing. It has been an amazing experience; I had hardly imagined that it would involve me so deeply in experimenting with pre-school education.However, I found that nursery school could be an exciting adventure for me, an experience of all the staff and as well as for the tiny tots. I want to share what I learnt over the months of association with my tiny tots.
First of all, I want to share with my personal experience as a mother of two beautiful souls, what shortcomings they faced when they were kids,t hat shortcomings I want to fulfil now in these N.S.N kids.

The falling standard of education and moral values which haunt well meaning all over the country can, in my opinion, be directly attributed to lack of improper facilities for pre-school education.
It was once true that ’Home is the first school and parents are the first teachers’. But the economic stress and strain on fathers and working mothers leave them with little time to attend to the necessary educational requirements of a child and the whole burden during the most impressionable and formative years of the child thus fall on the nursery school teachers and other members.What the child learns during 1 to 5 years of age has a lasting effect on his/her intelligence and attitude, and therefore the way education is imparted at the school is crucial for the child as well as for the society because pre-school education is the plinth on which the future superstructure of education is built.
According to saint philosopher Sir ’Sarvpalli Radhakrishnan’- Education is not something to be packed away in some corner of our brain, but what enters our being. Colours our emotions haunts our soul and is as close to us as life itself. The groundwork of such a broad-based education is accomplished at the primary level only.

According to me the first thing a good nursery school needs a right type of teacher who is in a key position to help nurture the habit of thinking and questioning in the child. All this requires a lot of effort, patience and enthusiasm of a teacher. The teacher at this stage serves as a role model for the child for he is like wet cement, anything that falls on it makes an impression
Games both indoor and outdoor are a must for a child.They develop his muscles and also give him invaluable lessons about cooperation, courage and will to do his best and to be satisfied with himself.

Last but not the least true to its name-- Nawal Shanti Niketan - Peaceful but must be filled with children's voice by which they kindle zeal life in the school premises. whisThis school appears to me as a temple of peace and knowledge for which I as a mother would have dreamt for my kids.
Every day is a new experience for me to be with small kids and performing new challenging task with my full courage and dedication.

My sincere thanks to all the staff members for doing their duty towards our school in an exemplary manner

Anjali Kaul
DBN Nawal Shanti Niketan

Leadership and its paradoxes

I was never a leader because I understood leadership to be titles and reputation and thus I was one of the masses that believed it’s their right to blame leadership for everything happening in their community and professional lives.
In a journalism class, my writing teacher would sit talking everything under the earth, without writing even a single word on the board.  Students were agitated – they wanted notes, dictations, books and he instead in our class was challenging all of that. He was silently questioning deep-rooted attitudes, somewhere trying to liberate those latent faculties that make a human being a writer. But not many are seekers of themselves, of true knowledge! Not everyone wants to be challenged! We all live in self-made bubbles, our kingdoms in which our notions are kings ruling over all subjects of our psyche.
I was always keen to listen to him but maybe was too inexperienced to understand him and his intentions then. I was only twenty-one years old in his class, fresh out of a small town.
Years later when journalism as an industry had disillusioned me and that happened in the first job itself, it was my teacher’s attitude of non-conformity that helped me believe in myself, pitch my voice and have the courage to stand out, take decisions that would normally not be taken in a career. Not that today I have made renown of myself, that was never my goal – but I do see that my wisdom permeates my knowledge, and my quest keeps getting liberated and wider.
Understanding leadership and its fundamentals began when as a volunteer I started gathering a team for an activism driven media. It was a cause I was extremely passionate and selfless about, involved putting up a team of twenty people from around the country. These people came from different professions, were highly skilled and were all there to contribute selflessly to the cause. However, by the time I could implement something I was left with only one collaborator.
If it was a 9-5 job and I was in it just for the heck of it, I wouldn’t have probably bothered. But what I was doing was driven by my heart and spirit and with so much of energy invested in it, as the endeavour progressed I had many questions. I wanted to understand how and why do people blame me for something they haven’t been able to adhere to. I started questioning my skills, abilities, attitude and behaviour. I wanted to for the first time, impelled by a real life situation understand - how leaders lead the team, how organisations work and how synergy is built. For the first time, I understood success isn’t easy, leadership isn’t glamourous – leadership is about relationships, it goes far beyond one’s ideas and perceptions held dear at any point, it involves letting go at every moment. It involves empowering other people; it involves acting foolish to let others take the limelight, and it involves a whole lot of moment-to-moment positive investment in people. In a way it’s like consciously parenting, educating, and mentoring, supervising lots of people together – it’s a tough job, and maybe that’s why leaders are built by tough life situations. They aren’t built by comforts and can’t be built by selfish motivations. They are far and few!
Accept challenges, look within rather than blaming the system and other people or for that matter fate, believe in yourself and your cause and be bluntly honest in looking within for the cause of misery, problem or challenge that manifest outside. Adhere to a value system and make it your prime intention and practice and in due course, as you lose track of identifying yourself special, the world will start to recognise you a leader. Leaders are born and not created! Thus the best mentor will give you an environment that challenges your fears. Whether you jump to flight from the cliff is a choice only you will make.

Venus Upadhayaya is a journalist and a passionate media professional, she works for school staff leadership development and empowerment of young people, her email is .

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