Quality and Love - Chandra Prakash

Quality

गणुवत्ता एक ऐसा तत्व हैं जो वस्तु को उपयोग में लाने के लिए उपयक्त बनाता हैं। वस्तओु के उत्पादन में

मानक मापदंडो का गणुवत्ता के लिए पालन होना अनि वार्य हैं। गणुवत्ता का सबसे महत्वपर्णू  लक्षण मानक के

अनरूप बने वस्तु पर स्टैंप सर्टिफिकेट या मानक कागज जिस से वस्तु की गणुवत्ता का पता लग सके। गणुवत्ता पर्णू 

शिक्षा(quality education) आधनिुनिक समाज की मांग हैं और चाहे कोई भी क्षेत्र हो गणुवत्ता की मांग हर जगह

होती हैं। गणुवत्ता शिक्षा से आशय शिक्षा में  गुण का विकास करना या गणु का समावेश करना हैं। जिस से छात्रों

एवं शिक्षा के उद्देश्य की प्राप्ति भली-भाँति हो सके। जब किसी कार्य में उस कार्य से सबंधित सभी गणु का

(व्यावहारिक एवंसद्धान्तिक) समावेश होता हैं। तो उसे उस कार्य की गणुवत्ता के रूप में देखा व समझा जाता

हैं।और यही पहलू शिक्षा में भी होता हैं। हम शिक्षा में गणुवत्ता की बात जब करते हैं तो हम ऐसी शिक्षा को

गणुवत्तापर्णू   मानेंगे  जो छात्रों को उस शिक्षा का लाभ पहुंचाए। शिक्षा में प्रायः उसी शिक्षा का समावेश होता हैं जो

शिक्षा शिक्षण अधिगम में छात्रों की रूचि एवं क्षमताओं को समझे एवं समाज की आवश्यकताओं की पर्तिू  करें  और 

छात्रों को जीवि को पार्जनर्ज योग्य बनाए।

उ.1- एक छात्र जो कक्षा के काम और गहृकार्य के साथ एक घटिया काम करता हैं।

पहला महत्वपर्णू  उपाय - जो छात्र class work और home work को अच्छे ढंग से नहीं करता हैं। तो इसके लिए हम उस छात्र को Punish नही करेंगे बल्कि इसके स्थान पर जो कक्षा में अच्छा छात्र हैं जो अपना class work अच्छे ढंग से करता हैं ,और Home work भी ठीक ढंग से करता हैं,और जो पढाई में अच्छा हो, उस छात्र का

  उदाहरण उस छात्र के पास रहेंगे, और कहेगे कि इस बच्चे की Note book देखिए और इस बच्चे से अपने आप

को Compare करो।

दसूरा उपाय- हमें बच्चों के प्रति लापरवाही नही  बरतनी   चाहिए । अगर हम कक्षा की बात करें तो कक्षा में जो कुछ

भी पढाया जाता हैं तो उस कार्य को उसी समय देखना चाहिए। जिस से बच्चे अपने कार्य के प्रति सजग रहें।

तीसरा उपाय- जो छात्र पढने में अच्छा हैं और Class work ठीक ढंग से करता हैं, और Home work भी अच्छे

ढंग से करता हैं। तो हमें प्रत्येक Week में प्रतियोगिता करानी चाहिए। जो बच्चे कक्षा में प्रथम , द्वितीय व ततृय

आये उन्हें इनाम देना चाहिए। जिस से बच्चे पढ़ाई व अपने कार्य के प्रति सजग रहें।और इनाम पाने के लिए

तत्पर रहे।

Love

प्रेम, प्यार, स्नेह कई नामों से जाने वाला शब्द हैं। जो अपने अर्थ को इतना विशिष्ट बनाये हुए हैं। आज तक

बहुत सारे कवियों, साहित्यकारों ,लेखकों और अन्य सभी पथ्वीवासियों ने प्रेम शब्द का अर्थ एक लाईन या कुछ

शब्दों में बताना आज भी उतना ही जटिल हैं। जितना मानव के प्रादर्भाुर्भाव के समय था। इस प्रकार प्रेम को

परिभाषित करना आसान नहीं हैं। प्रत्येक मनष्य प्रेम की अलग अलग रूपरेखा बना सकता हैं। प्रेम की परिभाषा के

रूप मेंअलग- अलग हो सकते हैं। उसके प्रति नजरिया भी अलग हो सकते हैं। लेकिन प्रेम तो प्रेम ही होता हैं। प्रेम

रूपी बीज का अंकुर उस भावना रूपी उपजाऊ  भूमि में होता हैं।  मनुष्य  जन्म से ही प्रेम की चाहत रखता हैं। वह प्रेम के बिना जीना नहीं चाहता हैं। जसै ही बच्चे का जन्म होता हैं वह अपने माता पिता तथा दादा दादी से प्रेम करता

हैं। वह उनसे  दूर नहीं जाना चाहता हैं। जसै ही बच्चे की उम्र चार-पाँच वर्ष हो जाती हैं उसके बाद वह अपने भाई

-बहिन का प्यार उसे प्राप्त होता हैं। यही से ही व्यक्तियों के सस्ंकारो में व्यापकता आना प्रारंभ हो जाती हैं। तथा

प्रारंभिक  मूल्यों  के विकास में प्रेम की महत्वपर्णू भूमिका होती  हैं। उसके बाद व्यक्ति स्कूल तथा काँलेजो में अपने

मित्रों के साथ प्यार बाटता हैं, प्राप्त करता हैं। तथा प्यार के प्रति उसकी समझ गहरी होती हैं। उसके बाद व्यक्ति

अपने कार्य स्थल तथा पारिवारिक जीवन में भी प्रेम चाहता हैं। कहने का अर्थ हैं कि प्रेम जीवन प्रयत्न चलनेवाली

एक व्यापक अवधारणा हैं।

रोमांटिक रिश्ते में दो नाबालि क छात्र

न. 1 महत्वपर्णू  बात -   हमें  बच्चों को प्रेम के बारे में समझाना चाहिए। प्रेम वह होता हैं जो मन से मन का हृदय सेहृदय का होता हैं। जसै कि आप अपने माता पिता भाई बहिन व दादा दादी से करते हैं। इसे ही प्रेम कहते हैं। आप प्रेम शब्द का गलत अर्थ न ले। अगर कोई छोटे बच्चे को उसके माता पिता बिना बताये इधर उधर चले जाते हैं। तो वह बच्चा कितना तड़पता हैं। इसेही प्रेम कहते हैं। हमें प्रेम का गलत अर्थ नहीं लेना चाहिए।

न. 2- अध्यापक को, बच्चों को समझाना चाहिए - अध्यापक को, बच्चों को अपने पास  बुलाकर उन्हें समझाना

चाहिए और कहना चाहिए कि अभी आप नाबालिक हो। तम्हें अभी अच्छे और गलत में कोई अतंर नहीं दिखाई

देता हैं। आपको ये सब नहीं करना चाहिए। आपके पीछे आपके माता व पिता हैं। कभी आपने उनके बारे में सोचा हैं।

आपके माता पिता को आपसे कितनी उम्मीद हैं। जब उनको ये बात पता चलेगी तो क्या होगा। इसके बजाय आप

कुछ ऐसा अच्छा कार्य जो  दुनिया  के लिए मिशाल बन जाए। तब आपके माता पिता का सिर कितना ऊँचा हो

जाएगा। ये सब बातें हमें बच्चों को प्यार से समझाना चाहिए।

-Chandra Prakash@JMMS, John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun 

Quality and Love - Nisha Pundir

Quality

Teaching can be defined, very simply, as activities that promote student learning. It encompasses all those teacher behaviours that encourage students to learn and make moves towards the institution's educational objectives.

Teachers should always be prepared for all kinds of situations in class that can make improvements in the child.

If a child gives us shoddy work, a teacher should know how to deal with the child and bring improvement in him.

A. The teacher should counsel the child patiently and try to understand his problem or situation and try to help and pull out the child. Necessary to have a word with his parents. Give an incentive for the improvement work.

For example: give him a good remark for his work, give him rewards in the form of treats and organise uploading by the class it will not only improve his problem and nature But also inculcate a feeling of improvement for others.

Love

Love is a set of emotions, behaviours and beliefs with strong feelings of affection.

In such a situation where two teenagers are in a romantic relationship, the First thing as teacher duty is to console Them and tell them about the meaning of love for that age; it is natural to get attracted towards the opposite gender. We can explain to them the meaning of love by the example of their family.

For example – Their family plays a vital role. In the way a child thinks or judges a teenager relationship. In a family, the mother cooks cleans and nurtures. For the other Family members, she does this because of her love for her family. The father provides many things to the family, and this also shows his love for his family. Similarly, the younger ones show respect to their parents and elders and demonstrate their love. This thing should be told to the teenager so that they don’t separate from their path at this critical age.

You can also give the Example of Buddha on the definition of love that is “If you like a flower you

pluck it, but if you love that flower, you water it daily.”

Also, we can counsel their parents if things get so much out of their hands.

- Nisha Pundir@JMMS, John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun 

Quality and Love - Dolly Pharsi

A student who does a shoddy job with classwork and homework.

 QUALITY 

 “Ensuring quality higher education is one of the most important things we can do for 

 Future generation.” -Rown Lewis

 Quality education can provide a generation of young individuals who will be global citizens and work in a unity to solve problems on social, economic and other aspects and also create a  sustainable development for the community and in their own terms they will be world leaders.

➢ As there may be multiple reasons for a student to do shoddy job with the classwork 

and homework, the important things to kept in mind while dealing with such cases 

are:-

1. Talk to the student: - A conversation with the students will be very helpful to understand the reason behind his/her behaviour for not performing and a simple counselling may solve this problem. This should be the initial dealing that a teacher requires.

2. Learning disabilities:- We also need to assure that many students also go through learning disabilities like dyslexia, visual perceptual and many more which may affect their performance and these may be the major symptoms the child is not completing his/her work.

3. Not getting proper guidance:- As a teacher we have to assure that the students gets the proper guidance not just in school but when the child goes back to his/her home so that  they can perform better in their work also we should make sure to provide the proper 

pattern of guidance for each student requirement.

4. Maintaining positive attitude toward the student: - It is very essential that a teacher should maintain a positive attitude from the very beginning because than only a bond of trust will develop between the teacher and the student, he/she will be able to discuss their problem also share the reason behind their behaviour and after that only teacher can resolve the concern problem.

5. Praise students for performance: - Once the student starts performing accordingly if the slightest positive change is observed and an encouragement is necessary because it will assure the child that he/she is on the right path as well as it will motive just not him/her but other students too, which will develop confidence in the student and he/she will enhance in their performance.

Approach related to student who does a shoddy job with classwork and Homework

1. Conservation with the student: - All students have different strength and abilities, some students may never be excellent but talented as an artist, show interest in extra circular activities and good in sports etc. So it’s a teacher responsibility to analyse and give homework and classwork in a format that each student in a class is engaged in and different activities that lead them to perform better.

2. Circumstantial behaviour:-While dealing with the students we need to understand the circumstance (environment) around the child when he/she in the class or goes back to home are suitable or disturbing environment for him/her to study. May be the student sitting next to the child disturb him/her or the health of the child may not support same goes for the environment at home, parents are uneducated or due to the child is from humble background and they do not have enough sources like electricity or stationary support. There will be multiple reasons as such so we should help the students in managing and overcoming these problems.

3. Engaging activities and observing student participation:- The classwork and  homework should be given in a format which continuously develop interest of the child to perform better, giving student leadership role in classroom will make them understand the responsibility given to them and perform accordingly for e.g if a child does not present their homework/classwork daily give them a duty to help other students with their classwork and homework so to help other students the child has to finish 

their own work first which will make them understand their mistakes and vice-versa,  it will help them to complete their work in time.

4. Physical movements:- We should make sure that short breaks and extra time is given to the students to complete their homework and classwork because there may be multiple reasons for not performing e.g like some students need extra time because they are slower than others in understanding or completing their work also some students require short breaks as they loose interest if they are continuously studying they get stressed very easily and cannot concentrate, due to this some small breaks with some physical exercise or movement, will relax them and create more focus.

5. Seeking professional help and informing parents:-Asking for help or guidance from a school counsellor or a senior teacher may also point out that the teacher or a student is missing the link to resolve this problem. Teacher can also understand by discussing the specific requirement of that particular child so she can innovate different methods to build a positive outcome from the students also if a child continuous to show a similar pattern after a keen and regular observation it is the responsibility of a teacher to make parents aware of the situation and discuss possibilities to encourage students for the positive outcome.

Two underage students in a romantic relationship

➢ Important things to keep in mind when dealing with two underage students in a 

romantic relationship:-

1. Deal with the situation at most sensitivity:- As the two students may be underage but the situation should be handle with at most sensitivity and sincerity as the children also do hold an individual personality and if the situation handle causally it may affect them emotionally, mentally and physical.

2. Approach them friendly: - We should not create any unpleasant situation where the children feel uncomfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings. As they are moving towards their adolescence this is a common situation for a teacher.

3. Remind them about the boundaries: - We need to make them understand that they are students and they have to follow rules and regulations of the school and if any misconduct will not be tolerated. A clear message to the student will give teacher a chance to control the situation.

4. Not a control but an open door policy:- We need to make students aware that we are not controlling them but we care for them, and the kind of relationship they are in needs time to mature, they also needs to give time to each other to understand the complexity of a relationship while making them understand that we are creating an open door policy where they can come at us at any given situation and we will not judge them or create any pressure, we will make every effort to handle the any given situation sensibly. 

5. Parental Intervention:- If students failed to response in a positive manner after applying the said above dealings then parental intervention is necessary where the teacher may explain the situation to the parents in a calm way so both parents and teachers can handle the matter in more appropriate manner.

➢ In the given account if two underage students are involved in a romantic relationship how to approach in the given situation

1. Every choice has its own consequences: - We have to make student aware that every choice they are making will affect their present and future and they should behave accordingly and we should give them some time to mellow down their feelings or to realise and understand how the present situation will affect them.

2. Maintain behaviour: - Any kind of romantic affection in the premises of the school is not acceptable and they should behave in an appropriate manner and acts like touching or any physical contact will lead to a major consequences.

3. Differentiate between love and infatuation: As they are in a tender age and they need time to understand their feeling, they need to know what is love and infatuation as they are entering in new phase of age and they may be attracted to different qualities of different person and feel that its love but in reality that is just infatuation or attraction.

4. New phase of life: - We also need to make them understand that they are still growing, they will develop emotionally, mentally and physically till they reach adult hood and these kind of feelings will regularly emerge in their life so in such an earlier phase they should avoid getting romantically involved and in the present scenario, they should give them some time to understand that it’s too early for such matters.

5. Professional Help: We should seek a professional help from school counsellor in this matter as they have more understanding how to control such behaviour of students also in some extreme cases parents should be inform and involved from both the sides. 

Encourage conversations about feelings, friendships and family relationships, it can help your child feel confident to talk about relationships in general. If your child knows what respectful relationships look like in general? These conversations might mean that your child will feel more comfortable sharing feelings.

-Dolly Pharasi @JMMS, John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun 

Quality and Love - Sweta Thapli

Quality 

Quality is the characteristic that something or someone has. It refers to how good someone or something is in comparison to others.

When we talk of people, quality refers to the attribute or characteristics that they possess.

Case-I- A student who does a shoddy job with classwork and homework. 

 We can deal with such students by:

• Finding out the reason- As a teacher, I will try to find out the reason that why the child is not performing well with homework or classwork. Maybe the child is going through some trauma or maybe he is facing some problem at his home. 

• Praise their work and effort- We can appreciate another child in the classroom who are doing good with their work. Seeing everyone getting appreciated the child will focus on his study and he will be able to do his homework and classwork properly. 

We can also mention their academic achievements to the other teachers and also to the students.

• Encourage the child- Encouraging a child will help them to achieve good results.  We should always be available to our students for their questions and concern as teachers.

• 

  Individual time- Spending individual time with the students help them to understand things properly and easily. This will help the teacher to get to know the child better.

• Limited work- We should not give plenty of work to the students, this loses the interest of the students in doing things. We should give them less work so everyone can do it without any difficulty. 

Love

"Love yourself first and everything falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world." - Lucille Ball

Love is a strong feeling that you have when you like something very much. It is the feeling of liking a friend or any person in your family.

School is the place or extent to which students feel personally accepted, respected, included and supported by others in the school environment. 

It is the psychological feeling of attachment that makes the students want to go to school every day. 

Cave-II Two underage students in a romantic relationship. 

We can deal with this situation by: 

• Not scolding them for things rather explaining to them that it is the age where you feel attached to someone. But that is not love it's just an attachment. Like:- you love dogs, chocolates, family and friends. You are attached to them. 

• We can have an individual talk with both of them. 

• We can have a discussion with the parents. 

• Counselling can be done to both and explaining to them that at this age you must focus on your studies and your career. 

• Explaining to them the importance and value of their time and their future.

There's a famous saying by Buddha:

When you like a flower you pluck it, but when you love a flower you water it daily...

-Sweta Thapli@JMMS, John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun 

Quality and Love - Sonali Sharma

Case 1: A student who does a shoddy job with classwork and homework.

Quality- when we look around we most of the time think and observe how good or bad something is, we try to compare the level of our thinking, understanding to that of theirs outcome and the result, that’s what quality is. It is the ability to satisfy the given needs, a degree or grade of excellence. According to John Ruskin “Quality is never an accident. It is always the result of intelligent effort.” So in order to get quality in our work, we need intelligent efforts in continuity. So when we talk about the student doing a shoddy job with classwork and homework, it means there is a lack of accuracy, thoroughness, competence, time management and responsibility. In short, the student is lacking in the quality of work. We need to make it very clear to the students that school is the place where each child develops. In order to deal with such a case, we need to look at certain things:-

1. Know the student personally

https://fordhaminstitute.org/national/commentary/whats-role-teacher-personalized-learning-classroom

We need to get to the words ‘Why’, why the child is doing such a shoddy job. ‘What’, what might be the reasons for the child to do such untidy work. Is the child not getting enough time for his work? Or is he not responsible? That all gets clear when there is a student-teacher relationship and when we try to build trust. Many times it is seen that the child does not perform well because of the family environment so we need to handle the family first and then

the student.

2. Help them observe their work with others (responsibility)

https://fordhaminstitute.org/national/commentary/whats-role-teacher-personalized-learning-classroom

A child is able to learn more when he observes and experiences the things around him, so despite telling the child about his shoddy work, we need to help him observe his work with others and ask about the good and the bad qualities. We have to track the student’s progress by allowing them to see visually just how much they are learning and improving

as time goes on.

3. Personalized feedback

https://www.lucidchart.com/blog/how-to-give-feedback

We have to take into consideration each individual child when giving feedback. We should remember that our classrooms are full of diverse students. A balance between not wanting to hurt a student’s feelings and providing proper encouragement is essential. We need to be sensitive to the individual needs of the student; we should always try to give the right and positive feedback.

4. Praising and rewarding the student

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When we praise the student it builds self-confidence. It is not necessary that we need to praise and reward the student only when he/she performs excellent work but we should also appreciate them for their small efforts because only these small efforts will one day become the bigger one. Rewarding a child for certain behaviours and rewarding hard work is extremely important to encourage him to

continue doing it and improve it, so if the child is doing the shoddy work he will surely improve if we motivate and reward him for the small ones. Continuously rewarding a child for good actions will

motivate them to repeat them until it becomes a habit and that what

quality is, it is not a value but a habit.

Case 2- Two underage students in a romantic relationship

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Love is a beautiful feeling that makes people happy. It is a set of emotions, behaviours, and beliefs with strong feelings of affection. For example, a person might say he/she loves his or her pet, loves freedom, or loves to read. The concept of love may become an unimaginable thing and also it may happen to each person in a particular way. It has a variety of feelings, emotions, and attitudes. It is the binding element that keeps a relationship strong and solid. 

According to H. Jackson Brown, Jr, Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own. When we need to explain this to the little ones. It becomes as difficult as to pin a medal on a shadow. They believe what they see and feel. In such a case when two underage students get into a romantic relationship, we need to handle this with patience and understand the situation well to make them understand true and pure love so that they understand it well. We need to deal this with certain things

1. Student-teacher relationship

In order to make the student understand what is right and wrong, we need to know the children personally and try to build the student-teacher relationship. If we scold the students for their behaviour it would get a very bad and negative impact on the student as well as on the whole class, but if we try to build a positive relationship with the students so the child will trust us and express his/her feelings properly, on the other hand, it will become easy for us to deal. We can use pets as an example while explaining to the students about love. Explaining to them the different essence of love will clear the concept in their minds and they will be clear regarding the concept.

2. Show Your Love for Environment

Before starting the lessons the teachers must ask the students regarding their love for their motherland, the plants, their families/friends and their school. By doing so the students will get involved in thinking of pure love rather than of a romantic relation, they will be encouraged to plant more trees on the earth day, and help their mothers in their homes as they have mother-child relation and so on. Doing activities like making a list of loved ones and finding the reasons behind their choice will clear the concept of their thinking about love and it will become easy for us to feel what their thinking is.

3. Talk about Loving Qualities

To teach how to identify loving qualities, the teacher can ask the child to remember a time when they met someone and what positive qualities they noticed about that person. “This person could be a teacher or a family friend. Then the students will be explaining why these people demonstrate qualities like love, what good did they see. Certainly, we can discuss some negative qualities as well to show the difference between good people and bad people.”

4. Responsibility

Telling the students about their responsibilities towards their families, nature, school, friends will somehow tell them their duties at the particular time. They themselves will realise that whatever they are doing is right or wrong. Talking particularly of love they will realise that anyone who has a loved one has felt the strong, undeniable impact of love on their decisions throughout life.

5. Love from teachers as well as the family

The love between the students and a teacher will build trust and strong understanding. Anyone who has a loved one has felt the strong, undeniable impact of love on them. Through this the children will be told easily that whatever they are doing is wrong they have a bigger way ahead of them and this is the time when they can develop the most and learn more. Anyone who has a loved one has felt the strong, undeniable impact of love on their decisions throughout life. In many cases, love changed lives and helped people to achieve incredible things they wouldn’t have achieved without it. However, most of the time it becomes difficult to explain the meaning of love. We need to tell all these things to the parents as well and ask them to spend more time with their children.

- Sonali Sharma @JMMS, John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun

Quality and Love - Sandhya Thadani

Quality 

A shoddy job is done by a student.

Negligence and carelessness amongst children are not unusual! Priorities of any human being constantly keep changing, depending on the state of the mind, but that does not imply that the child may be branded as being careless or is shoddy in his or her work.

The education of a child begins at birth and experiences in these early years at home get imprinted into the child’s mind.

I personally feel that if the father or mother is careless or make excuses to evade situations, it gets noticed by the child leading to the child also adopting similar techniques to escape and take the easy route.

A common situation in every household is when the phone of the father is ringing and he tells the child or the mother to tell the caller to say that papa is not at home. That is the first lie witnessed by a child, who considers his father to be a role model!

Hence, the parents need to set examples of good behaviour, again and again, such that it registers in the child as standard behaviour. Setting examples through behaviour is far-reaching and penetrative than sermons that do not convey the message.

We want our children to work towards perfection but we ourselves keep doing shoddy jobs. That would be a very negative influence on the child and the child shall end up in the footsteps of the parents, be it, mother or father.

If a child’s work is shoddy, anger or authoritarian behaviour or impatience amongst the parents is not a solution. Children are very keen and clear-sighted observers and attempting to correct them through kindness and affection shall always give positive results. Giving students constructive feedback will always inspire them towards perfection which we are seeking.

It’s human to make mistakes. I will not expect the child to be perfect in their schoolwork or their homework. The child needs to be free from fear as fear is another cause for mistakes.

I will use the following approaches to overcome the situation:

1. Making the child responsible for his learning: It is important to guide the children through the learning process, but the control is in the hands of a child for his learning experiences whether it is at home or in the classroom. 

2. Open and sincere feedback: I will create a comfortable atmosphere. Without being judgmental, I will give the child feedback so that he can improve.

3. Focus will be on learning: Actual learning is more important than just cramming for the exams. By focusing on learning, the child would solidify his learning experiences.

4. Being organized: I will help the child to be organized in his school and in his homework assignments. Being patient and consistent in the learning process will help the child to overcome doing shoddy work. 

5. Focus on the strength: Focusing on the strength can be difficult when a child is struggling academically. It’s a vital force to healthy emotional and academic development and progress. It’s also another form of positive reinforcement that will motivate the child to bring perfection towards his task. Conversely, focusing on your child's weaknesses does nothing but cause discouragement, distress and a lack of desire to learn and perform. 

6. Celebrating the achievements. Celebrating the child’s achievements or good work, no matter how small or insignificant they may be, is a very positive reinforcement motivating the child to excel.

Above all, I will make sure that the child is loved and only then he would be ready to learn anything. 

“One must be a saint and a hero to be a good teacher. One must be a great yogi to be a teacher. One must have a perfect attitude to be able to exact a perfect attitude from the students. You cannot ask anyone to do what you don’t do yourself. That is a rule”. -The Mother

Love

Romantic emotions amongst teens

It is not unusual for children in their teens to get entangled in romantic relationships with their classmates with whom there is extensive interaction in class followed by after class interaction as well.

Love is of varying kinds, not just a romantic alliance. There is parental love, brotherly love, friendly love and of course love driven by sexual attraction or infatuation or physical lust.

 A child, irrespective of their gender, would be receiving very engrossing exposure through social media, television and travel would be witnessing the close proximity between boys and girls. 

Under such circumstances, the parents who are generally held in very high esteem by the children, would not be able to have friendly communication with the child.

As their teacher, in a situation like this, after making close observation of the boy and girl, I would initiate a private conversation with their parents first separately and then collectively, and after taking them into confidence, have a word with the children but not as their teacher but as their friend.

The friendly communications with the two teens would be first singly with each of them followed by joint communication. In a situation like this, the teens are more receptive to friendly guidance than elderly advice.

I would advise them to have lots of friends irrespective of gender and that it is healthy for their development to interact with multiple boys and girls irrespective of their gender. 

I will use the following approach to deal with the underage romantic relationship:

1. Avoid harsh punishments. It would affect the child adversely and he or she will become more dependent on the romantic relationship for comfort.

2. I will talk about infatuation, romance, sexual attraction. As a teacher, I will have a joint discussion with the parents and the child.

3. I will encourage the child to move into mixed friend groups of boys and girls.

4. I will define a clear boundary of behaviour for the child.

5. I will make the child realize the consequences of underage relationships. 

6. I will encourage the child to take up a hobby or passion, instead of trying to break the friendship. I will get her involved in the activities, which she enjoys the most.

7. I will maintain a trusting and warm relationship with the child. I would try to have a strong teacher- child-parent, relationship. It would help the child to trust me unconditionally. If the child does not trust the teacher, then she would respond to the relationship, where she feels wanted and important.

8. I will avoid judging the children who are in a relationship. I will give her space to confide in me.

Changes in adolescence are a natural process of a child’s growth. We need to understand the growth and development of the child. The child is going through a period of intense self-discovery and the teacher must facilitate that process. 

- Sandhya Thadani @JMMS, John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun

Quality and Love - Renu Raturi

गुणवत्ता (Quality) 

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गुणवत्ता का मतलब है, विशेषताओं की समग्रता जो एक आवश्यकता को पूरा करने के लिए कार्य करती है। गुणवत्ता को हम अनेक रूपों में ले सकते हैं, जैसे किसी व्यक्ति, वस्तु या किसी भी चीज के गुण या अवगुण। गुणवत्ता के द्वारा हमें इनके विषय में उचित ज्ञान होता है। गुण और अवगुण हर एक व्यक्ति में होते हैं और अपने गुणों के कारण ही लम्बे समय तक किसी व्यक्ति को याद किया जाता है। एक कक्षा में भी हर प्रकार के बच्चे होते हैं और एक अध्यापक को हर एक बच्चे को उसके गुणों और अवगुणों के साथ ही शिक्षा देनी होती है। 

1. अगर कक्षा में कोई बच्चा कक्षा कार्य और गृह कार्य अच्छी तरह से नहीं कर रहा है तो एक अध्यापक को निम्नलिखित बिंदुओं पर ध्यान केंद्रित करना चाहिए - 

1) समझने की कोशिश करे कि ऐसा क्यों हो रहा है - 

जब भी कोई बच्चा कक्षा कार्य और गृह कार्य अच्छी तरह से नहीं करता तो अध्यापक को चाहिए कि वह कारण जानने की कोशिश करे कि ऐसा क्यों हो रहा है? जो बच्चा बार - बार गंदा काम कर रहा है? कहीं यह समस्या उसके परिवार से जुड़ी तो नहीं या कक्षा में कोई ऐसी वजह जिससे वह अपने काम पर ध्यान केंद्रित नहीं कर पा रहा। 

2) बच्चे पर गुस्सा ना करें और शांतिपूर्वक बात करें - 

ऐसी स्थिति में अध्यापक को बच्चे पर गुस्सा ना करके प्यार से बात करनी चाहिए ताकि वह अपने मन की बात सुना सके। अगर अध्यापक बच्चे से प्यार से बात नहीं करेगा तो बच्चा कभी भी अपनी समस्या नहीं बता सकता। बच्चे की परेशानी समझने की कोशिश करे। 

3) बच्चे को समझाएं और प्रोत्साहित करे- 

बच्चे को यह समझाएं कि अगर वह अपना काम नियमित रूप से करेगा तो कक्षा में सभी बच्चे और अध्यापक उसकी प्रशंसा करेंगे और बच्चे को यह भी समझाने की कोशिश करें कि उसका कार्य उसके    परीक्षाफल को प्रभावित करेगा जिससे उसके भविष्य पर भी असर पड़ेगा। बच्चे के लिए एक अध्यापक उचित मार्गदर्शक का कार्य कर सकता है और अगर बच्चे के अंदर आत्मविश्वास की कमी है तो उसे समझाएं कि "करत करत अभ्यास ते जड़मति होत सुजान" मतलब अभ्यास करते रहने से मूर्ख व्यक्ति भी विद्वान बन जाता है और बच्चे को यह भी समझाएं कि उसे कभी भी उम्मीद नहीं छोड़नी है। 

4) बच्चे के अभिभावक से बात करेंगे - 

अध्यापक को बच्चे के अभिभावकों से भी बात करनी चाहिए शायद वह जानते हो कि बच्चा ऐसा क्यों कर रहा है या घर में ही बच्चे को कोई परेशानी है। अगर ऐसा कुछ है तो अभिभावक ही उसे सुलझा सकने में सक्षम हैं अपने बच्चे के लिए घर में ऐसा वातावरण बनाएं जो बच्चे को एकाग्र होने में मदद करें और बच्चे का  गृह कार्य करवाने में उसकी मदद करें। 

प्यार (Love) 

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प्यार एक भावना है, जिसका मतलब है, किसी व्यक्ति में गहरी रूचि या किसी की निकटता से प्राप्त होने वाली खुशी। प्यार एक ऐसा एहसास है, जो दिमाग से नहीं दिल से होता है। प्यार में अलग-अलग विचारों का समावेश होता है, प्यार खुशी की और धीरे-धीरे अग्रसर होता है, यह एक निजी जुड़ाव की भावना है। प्यार के अनेक रूप हैं जैसे मां का बच्चे के लिए प्यार, गुरु का शिष्य के लिए, दोस्त का दोस्त के लिए और भी कई रूपों में प्यार हमें दिखाई देता है। प्यार का मतलब है, किसी व्यक्ति का हृदय की गहराइयों से ख्याल रखना प्यार हमें आंतरिक ऊर्जा देता है और हमारी समस्याओं के समाधान में हमारी मदद भी करता है। समाज में प्यार को अक्सर स्त्री-पुरुष के बीच के रिश्ते के रूप में देखा जाता है और प्यार का मतलब अक्सर गलत ही समझा जाता है।    

2) यदि एक कक्षा में अध्यापक को कभी ऐसी परिस्थिति का सामना करना पड़ जाए जब कक्षा के 2 बच्चों को लगे कि वे एक दूसरे से प्यार करते हैं, क्योंकि बच्चों को प्यार का सही मतलब नहीं पता होता तो अध्यापक को ऐसी स्थिति में बच्चों को यह समझाना होगा कि वास्तव में प्यार का सही मायने में क्या अर्थ है? प्यार एक मासूम सा एहसास है जो सभी रिश्तो में ऊर्जा देने का कार्य करता है। आजकल के बच्चे टेलीविजन पर मूवीस सच्चा प्यार वही है देखकर सोचते हैं कि प्यार एक भावना है जो उनकी जरूरतों को पूरा करती है लेकिन एक अध्यापक को बच्चों को यह समझाना होगा कि वास्तव में प्यार तो इंसान का इंसान से, इंसान का भगवान से निस्वार्थ रूप से प्रेम और जानवरों का भी एक दूसरे के प्रति प्यार होता है। जानवरों में भी प्रेम की भावना होती है। कक्षा में अगर दो बच्चे एक दूसरे से प्यार में पड़ जाएँ तो दोनों बच्चों को यह समझाएं कि यह जो उन दोनों के बीच है सिर्फ क्षणभंगुर आकर्षण है, जो उनके भविष्य को नुकसान पहुंचा सकता है उन्हें अभी इन सब बातों पर ध्यान ना देकर अपनी पढ़ाई और भविष्य पर ध्यान देना है, उन्हें यह भी समझाया जाना चाहिए कि प्यार उन्हें उनके परिवार में भी सभी करते हैं, जो किसी और के प्यार से ज्यादा महत्वपूर्ण है। उनको अपने परिवार के विषय में सोचना है और अपने भविष्य के विषय में सोचना है। बच्चों को यह भी बताया जाए कि किस तरह से उनके माता-पिता रात-दिन मेहनत करके उनको विद्यालय में दाखिला दिलवाते हैं जिससे उनका भविष्य बन सके तो क्या यह उनके लिए माता-पिता  का प्यार नहीं है। यह उसके माता-पिता का उसके लिए प्यार ही है जो इतनी मेहनत करके उसे विद्यालय में भेज रहे हैं। बच्चे को या समझाएं प्यार ही वह भावना है जो हमें बर्दाश्त करने की शक्ति देती है। सच्चा प्यार वही है जो हम निस्वार्थ भाव से करते हैं।

- Renu Raturi@JMMS, John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun

Quality and Love - Asha Bhandari

Quality गुणवत्ता

अगर कोई बच्चा कक्षा व गहृ कार्य ठीक से नहीं कर पा रहा है, तो हमें बच्चे के पास बैठ कर  उसकी समस्या सुननी चाहिए। बच्चे के घर में कोई समस्या तो नहीं चल रही है। जिस कारण बच्चा अपने काम के प्रति जागरूक नहीं हो पा रहा है। जब बच्चा कक्षा में उपस्थि त होकर भी कार्य में ध्यान नहीं लगा पाता है तो नि श्चय ही उसके दिमाग में कुछ चल रहा होता है। यह उसके घर के माहौल या साथि यों का भी असर हो सकता है।

हमें बच्चे के साथ प्यार का रिश्ता बना कर उसके मन और दिमाग में चल रही समस्या का समाधान ढूंढ कर बच्चे की सहायता करने की कोशि श करनी चाहि ए। अगर बच्चा कक्षा में गुमसुम बठै है और आपकी बात का कोई जवाब नहीं दे रहा है तो हमें अकेले में बच्चे से बात करनी चाहिए। जब वह बच्चा कार्य में थोड़ी भी रुचि दिखाता है तो हमें सबके सामने उसे प्रोत्साहित करना चाहिए।

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Love प्यार

कक्षा में जब बच्चे का दाखिला करते हैं, तो वह अपने घर की सारी बातें अपने दोस्तों तथा अपने अध्यापक को बताता है। इसी प्रकार वह स्कूल की सारी बातें घर जाकर अपने माता - पिता को बताता है। कक्षा में वह अपने मन पसंद अध्यापक या साथियों के साथ बैठना पसदं करता है। धीरे धीरे उसकी यह पसंद एक लगाव का रूप ले लेती है। अगर उसका पसंदीदा अध्यापक या दोस्त किसी वजह से कक्षा में उपस्थित नहीं होता है तो उसका मन कक्षा में नहीं लगता है। इसके लिए अध्यापक को चाहिए कि वह समय-समय पर बच्चों को अलग-अलग दोस्तों के साथ बिठाए। सभी बच्चों के अदंर कोई ना कोई खूबी अवश्य होती है। कोई बच्चा देखने में सुंदर होता है तो कोई पढ़ाई में बहुत होशि यार होता है।

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- Asha Bhandari @JMMS, John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun

Quality and Love - Meena Kukreti

Quality is a measuring scale to achieve satisfaction by doing the right things on time. It depends on others' needs. We all know that education is the backbone of our society. Education not only prepares a student for a job but also develops the overall personality of an individual. So it is necessary to give quality education to the children. Moral values and ethics should be a part of the curriculum to help a child live a good living.

Things to be kept in mind while dealing with students.

● Recognize the reason- when I see that the child is doing untidy work I observe the child and find the reason why the child is doing so. We see some students' words and sentences floating above or below. It could be because of poor motor control. Maybe there is some family problem so the child is not doing homework properly. In some cases, I have seen that the students are impulsive. They may rush through assignments. So they make many mistakes and do sloppy work. Some students have visual problems, maybe they don't understand the concept.

As an educator when I deal with such students I approach them by doing such things.

● Patience- We all know that it is not easy to do in one day. It takes time to improve their work. So we have to be patient. In our school, I sit with small children and help them practice how to hold a pencil and keep notebooks in the proper place while writing. I approach the child with a calm and supportive attitude.

● Proper fine motor skills - When a child has messy handwriting because of poor motor control I teach them proper fine motor skills by giving them tracing exercises, drawing work and paper cutting work. Sometimes we do cooking activities in the school and children help in peeling and cutting vegetables and fruits which develop their motor control.

●Allow for movement and breaks- For the impulsive child, I allow him/her for movement and breaks. I ask to erase the board, collect paper and do other tasks.

● Active guidance- I know that some children do shoddy jobs in classwork so when I give them work I move around the class and check in on their work and correct it. If they have a problem I help them and give individual attention.

● Teach time management- It is an effective method to teach students about time. Poor time management can lead to sloppy assignments. I give them time to complete the work and refuse to accept work before a certain time and it improves their writing skills.

● Include activities and games- Some students don't understand by chalk and talk method. They like creative work and enjoy it. They learn easily through activities and games. So I use it in the class to encourage them to take an interest and avoid mistakes.

● Homework according to students' needs- I give homework according to the student's interests and strengths. If I want to improve their writing skill I give only two lines to write.  Sometimes I give them only revision work or classwork for homework. I consider shortening work so if I want an essay instead of a long essay I give them paragraph writing. 

Love is a strong feeling of deep affection and care that comes from the heart. Love brings patience, respect and understanding. It is a trust we place in someone. There is no space for jealousy and expectations. It has the power to bind the world together and make us happy. It gives us energy and motivation in difficult times. Love encompasses a range of strong and positive emotional and mental states, from the most sublime virtue or good habit, the deepest interpersonal affection, to the simplest pleasure. Love is considered to be both positive and negative, with its virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection, as "the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another" and its vice representing human moral flaw,  selfishness.

If two underage students are in a romantic relationship I keep some points in mind while dealing with them.

Adolescence or teenage is the most crucial time for a person. At this age, many changes happened in personal life and school like physical, social and emotional changes. It shows in their looks and interest.  They like independence and privacy. They make friends for lifetimes.  Students develop affection for each other because they spend more time together in school. Sometimes they have peer pressure. 

●Understand them- When underage students are in a romantic relationship we have to understand their feelings and emotions. In adolescence, different changes occur in our brain. They seek acceptance and belonging among friends. Hormonal changes occur at this age so we have to observe them quietly and if something bothers them we have to ask if they would like to talk about it.

●Communicate about love and relation-

We have to be open-minded and create an emotionally safe space for discussion, sharing and problem-solving. Talk about love in a general context. Use open discussion, ask their opinions, thoughts and ideas about love. We have to tell them about healthy and unhealthy relationships. Tell them that they must have trust, honesty and respect in a healthy relationship.

So  We have to tell them to focus on their studies and think About higher education and career and not wasting time on unreal affection. Sometimes students are influenced by movies and novels so we have to make them understand stories and real-life situations. 

●Avoid harsh punishment -We have to avoid punishment and encourage them to pursue an interest or hobby instead of trying to break the friendship. They can derive a similar feeling of self-esteem and importance by engaging in activities and less depending on romance.

● Talk about unconditional love- You should love yourself and each other in any condition whether we are happy or sad. We have to forgive when someone makes a mistake. We have to tell them about nature, which gives us many things unconditionally. So we have to care about our environment and do some activities with students like plantation cleaning the school campus or gardening. Explain to them how these actions show love towards nature. 

● Help them define boundaries- we have to tell them that they must make personal boundaries that protect them against physical abuse. They have to understand the other's values and what is right or wrong for them.

-Meena Kukreti @JMMS, John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun 

Quality and love - Bharti Dangwal

Quality

1. A student who does a shoddy job with classwork and homework?

There are many ways to tackle such problems. These students firstly need special attention and personal guidance. They are to be handled with care. The teacher and student must build trust among themselves. As a teacher, I will first talk to the student to gain his/her trust. Then I will try my best to tell or make the student realize the importance of classwork and homework. I will give individual time to the child. I will talk to the parents so they can help the child at home. I will try to keep the students engaged in activities. This will help students to focus on their work. I will give interesting and enjoyable work to the students. This will help the students to learn with fun. The more interesting the activities are, the more fun will be learning.

Love

2. Two underage students in a romantic relationship?

As we all know, when puberty hits, a student goes through many adolescent changes like physical, social and emotional. Romantic relationships can bring many emotional ups and downs for the child and sometimes for the whole family. These changes distract the child and make him lose his concentration in studies. But being strict with the students or denying them entry into any relationship can affect them psychologically. 

As a teacher, the foremost thing I can do is talk to them and show them that I support them. By talking, I can counsel the students. We can find ways in which neither the students are harmed nor the relationship. 

I will talk to the child about his/ her romantic relationship and make him feel comfortable sharing it with me. This will help the students to take the right steps and move in the correct direction. I will not criticize the relationship; otherwise, the students will drive away from me. The more they will share with me, the better I can help them with their life ahead.

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- Bharti Dangwal@JMMS John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun

Quality and Love - Shalini Gurung

Quality का  अर्थ है  गुणवत्ता  हम सभी में अर्थात संसार के हर एक मनुष्य में कोई ना कोई गुण अवश्य होता है ।कोई पढ़ने मे अच्छा होता है , तो कोई खेलने में, कोई कला में, तो कोई गृह कार्य में तो कोई बाहर के कार्य में कोई हस्त कला में निपुण होता है तो किसी की आवाज मीठी होती है। इस तरह हर किसी में कोई ना कोई गुण अवश्य देखने को मिलता है ,लेकिन अपने इस गुण को हर कोई बाहर नहीं ला पाता। इसलिए हमें कक्षा में हर एक विद्यार्थी के गुणों को बाहर लाने के लिए कक्षा में अलग-अलग तरह के क्रियाकलाप के द्वारा हर एक बच्चे के गुण को बाहर लाने का कार्य अध्यापिका का होता है।

कक्षा कार्य अथवा ग्रह कार्य विद्यार्थी सही ढंग से करें इसके लिए शिक्षकों को बच्चों से बेहद ही संजीदगी से बात करनी चाहिए। इससे बच्चे अनुशासित रहते है,और उनमें आज्ञाकारिता बनी रहती है । एक कक्षा अध्यापिका को अपनी कक्षा के हर एक बच्चे के बारे में पता होता है कि वह कैसा है? उसी के हिसाब से हमें उन्हें गृह कार्य अथवा कक्षा कार्य देना चाहिए जैसे कि अगर हमने कक्षा में गणित विषय में गिनती लिखने के लिए कॉपी में दी है ,तो जरूरी नहीं है कि सभी बच्चे वह कार्य करें तो जो बच्चे कार्य नहीं कर रहे हैं ।उन्हें हम वह कार्य कॉपी में न करा कर बाहर ले जाकर खेल-खेल में उनसे रेत में गिनती लिखवा सकते हैं या फिर कोई भी चीज से गिनती बनवा सकते हैं ।जैसे कि पत्थर से या फिर पत्तों से हमें हमेशा हर एक बच्चे को प्रोत्साहित करना चाहिए। क्योंकि हर किसी में कोई न कोई गुण अवश्य होता है ।

जरूरी नहीं है कि हर बच्चा पढ़ने में अच्छा हो। पढ़ने के अलावा वह बाकी चीजों में भी अच्छा हो सकता है। इसलिए हमें हमेशा बच्चों से प्यार अथवा नरमी से बात करनी चाहिए। क्योंकि प्राइमरी सेक्शन में यह देखा जाता है कि बच्चा उसी से अपनी बात कहता है जो उसको समझता है। क्योंकि हर बच्चे का स्वभाव अलग-अलग होता है। बच्चा एक गीली मिट्टी के जैसा होता है, जिसे हम नरमी से पेश आकर कोई भी आकार दे सकते हैं। हमें हमेशा बच्चों से बच्चे बनकर रहना चाहिए। क्योंकि बच्चों का दिमाग बहुत ही कोमल होता है। उनको हर चीज जानने की इच्छा होती है। उनके लिए हर चीज नई होती है इसलिए उन्हें उनके बारे में जाने की इच्छा भी अधिक रहती है।

बच्चों में अच्छे गुण भी होते हैं और बुरे गुण भी और हमारा कार्य है बच्चों की अच्छे गुण को दर्शाना उन्हें अच्छे गुण में प्रोत्साहन देना। हमें कुछ इस ढंग से उनके अच्छे गुणों को दर्शाना चाहिए। जिससे कि उन्हें अपने बुरे गुणों की तरफ ध्यान ही न जाए और वह ऐसा कोई कार्य न करें। हमारा कार्य है उनके हर गुणों को सामने लाना । इसके लिए हमें उनके घर वालों से समय-समय पर बातचीत करते रहना चाहिए ।जिससे कि बच्चे के बारे में हमें पता चल सके कि बच्चा घर पर क्या करता है ?कैसे रहता है?और बच्चों के माता-पिता को हमारे द्वारा पता चल सके की बच्चा स्कूल में क्या कर रहा है? देखा जाए तो बच्चों का भविष्य घर में माता पिता के हाथ में और स्कूल में अध्यापिका के हाथ में होता है।

प्यार (love) आज के समय में ज्यादातर लोग प्यार शब्द को स्त्री-पुरुष के प्रेम-प्रसंग से जोड़कर देखते हैं। प्यार तो वह भावना है जो किसी व्यक्ति, वस्तु ,जीव और अपने ईश्वर के लिए निस्वार्थ पैदा होती है। प्यार का अर्थ ही हमेशा साथ निभाना होता है। 

प्यार दिमाग से नहीं दिल से होता है ,प्यार में हम अच्छा-बुरा,अमीर-गरीब,गोरा- काला,छोटा-बड़ा कुछ नहीं देखते हैं ।हमें प्यार किसी से भी कभी भी हो सकता है। प्यार में ऐसी शक्ति  होती है जो कठिन से कठिन कार्य को भी आसानी से कर सकता हैं। कठोर से कठोर हृदय वाले को भी पिघला सकता है ।

जो कार्य गुस्से से नहीं हो पाता प्यार के द्वारा आसानी से किया जा सकता है। प्यार में ऐसी शक्ति होती है, अगर कोई व्यक्ति आपसे बुरा व्यवहार भी करता है ,लेकिन आप प्यार से उससे अच्छा व्यवहार करेंगे तो वह व्यक्ति खुद ब खुद आपके साथ भी प्यार से व्यवहार करेगा। तभी प्यार को एक पवित्र एहसास माना गया  है।

अगर आपको एहसास होता है किसी छात्र छात्रा के प्यार में पङने का तो आपको सबसे पहले दोनों को बिठाकर प्यार से उन्हें प्यार का मतलब समझाना चाहिए । क्योंकि जो हमारा विद्यालय है वह प्राइमरी सेक्शन वाला है। अभी तक ऐसा कुछ देखने या सुनने में नहीं मिला है । लेकिन अगर आगे जाकर हमें इस चीज का अगर सामना करना पड़ता है तो हम  प्यार से ही समझाएंगे  । और उन दोनों को प्यार का अर्थ समझाएंगे कि प्यार क्या है?

प्यार हम अपने माता पिता से ,अपने भाई बहन से ,अपने दादा दादी से ,अपनी अध्यापिका से ,किसी भी जीव से और भगवान से , किसी भी वस्तु से कर सकते हैं। और छात्र छात्रा के घर वालों से बातचीत द्वारा उनके बारे में पूछ सकते हैं। क्योंकि इसमें घर वालों की भी प्रमुख भूमिका रहती है। बचपन में जो भी चीज हमें अच्छी लगती है ।हम उससे प्यार कर बैठते हैं। फिर वह चाहे कोई खाने की चीज हो या कोई खेलने का सामान हो । जिसे हम दिल से चाहते हैं उसकी हम परवाह भी करते हैं । भले ही वह कोई इंसान हो या कोई वस्तु। अगर हम किसी जानवर से भी प्यार करते हैं तो हमारा प्यार भरा बर्ताव देख कर वह भी हमसे प्यार करने लगता है। अर्थात हमें सभी से मिलजुल कर रहना चाहिए ।सभी इसकी परवाह करनी चाहिए ।सभी से प्यार भरा बर्ताव रखना चाहिए। बच्चों का तो स्वभाव ही कक्षा में शोर मचाना और शैतानी करना होता है।

अगर कक्षा में अध्यापिका के होते हुए बच्चे शोर कर रहे हैं , तो इसमें बच्चे की कोई गलती नहीं मानी जाएगी। इसमें अध्यापिका की ही गलती मानी जाएगी कहीं ना कहीं उसके पढ़ाने का तरीका अथवा ढंग ही गलत होगा। इसलिए हमें कक्षा में इस तरह से पढ़ाना चाहिए । जिससे कि बच्चे शोर ना करें पढ़ने के साथ-साथ हमें क्रियाकलाप पर भी ध्यान देना चाहिए। उनके गलती करने पर हमें दंड ना देकर उन्हें अच्छे ढंग से समझाना चाहिए ।अगर आप दंड देंगे तो बच्चा और जिद्दी होगा । जिससे वह आपकी बात कभी भी नहीं सुनेगा।                       

 - Shalini Gurung@JMMS, John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun

Quality and love - Neelam Bhardwaj

The word Quality can be defined in two aspects -

• The degree of excellence in the work undertaken.

• Distinct virtue or characteristic - Discipline, Hard Work, Diligence, Sincerity etc.

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A teacher deals with all kinds of students and no two students are the same. There are times when the children come up with untidy or incomplete work. So how a teacher can enhance the various qualities in the children to get a good quality of work from them.

There can be many reasons, for which a teacher needs to find the solutions as well.

1. Unclear concepts

Sometimes the child does not understand the concepts and finds it difficult to complete the given work. A teacher needs to find the learning styles of the students. For that matter, a teacher needs to be supportive and encouraging. There are some slow learners who may need extra help. The teacher should give them individual time, and may even need to adjust some assignments for them. 

2. Too much workload

Sometimes it is hard for the children to give good results in their work as they get overburdened by the work. Rather than teaching 2 or 3 topics together, the teacher should limit the learning to just one topic. Students will give a better quality of work as their focus remains on a single topic. Homework should be given, but limited. It is just a mode for the children to revise and retain what they learned in the class. Homework is given to set a system of learning, which helps the children to develop discipline and self-confidence.

3. Home is a place for relaxation

It is hard for the kids to focus at home. When the child is in the classroom there aren't a lot of distractions and  Learning is structured and organised. As soon as the children reach home their brain clicks to relaxing mode. They intend to do what they feel like. For this, the parents need to assist their child at home and teachers should make sure to check with the parents. Under the guidance of the parents, the children can give better results in their work.

4. Lack of interest

At a point in time, the children really lose interest in doing their work. A teacher needs to have discussions, not lectures. Some group activities, project work, outdoor walks, social experiments, should be included in the teaching to make the learning interesting and exciting for the students. This will definitely give good outcomes and improve the quality of work. 

5. Lack of understanding between teacher and student

Students are more inclined to complete assignments when teachers and students respect one another. Students sense when teachers care about them and want them to do their best work. Even the students will try harder if they know that the teacher cares about them and respects them not just as students but as human beings as well.

Classwork and homework can bring together children, parents and teachers in a common effort to improve students' learning. Teachers are the vital link in making this happen. Qualities like self-discipline, responsibility, love of learning, sincerity, punctuality which they learn at school benefit them throughout their lives.

Love

Love makes not just the world go around, but our perception of everything in the universe as well.

Love is a word that does not have a definition. It is more easily experienced than defined. It is multidimensional and complex yet simple and powerful. It takes on different forms. 

Middle school or High school is when many teenage students start to explore love and romance. This may seem silly but for a teen student, it is one of the most important steps in the journey of growth. This is the time when they are going through hormonal changes.

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For teachers talking on a topic like love is as important as teaching any biology lesson. Teachers have a great role in helping students understand what love is and its various aspects. 

The conversation about love should start before the students reach that stage of getting into any romantic relationship. A teacher should define love to the students in different aspects. Having someone's help, enjoying a game together and sharing lunch is a way of showing love. It is the love that we share with our family, friends and pets. In another aspect- dancing, painting, travelling, gardening, shopping is also love because love is what you like. Doing something for the love of it is the most divine, wonderful, powerful way of doing it. Another form of love that generally attracts teenagers is the romantic form of love. The children need to know that love is not always about romance. 

Love and relationships can be difficult, especially in the teenage years. Budding romances can be fun but also confusing. In these moments of confusion, students often turn to friends or the internet. In that case, Students can be best guided by the teachers, as they spend most of their time in school.

Teachers need to counsel the children about love and infatuation. Even talk to the parents. Tell the children what is right and wrong for them. Needs to show the students that they value their opinions and keeps the door open to more conversations.

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Teachers and parents can still have rules for the children to be safe, healthy and moral while communicating in a mutually respectful way.

 - Neelam Bhardwaj@JMMS, John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun

Quality and Love - Jyoti Joshi

Quality refers to being positive and finding the best in others. It means how good something is compared to other things. Teamwork is the key to quality. Quality is never an accident. It is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, intelligent direction and skilful execution. It represents the wise choice of many alternatives. Quality is not an act; it is a habit. 

1.  A student who does a shoddy job:-

• Firstly I would meet with the student and try to build a friendship with the student. I will try to engage the student in the class activity to pay more attention and develop more interest in the particular subject. 

•   While developing a friendly relationship with the child, I will try to identify the difficulties they face while doing the work. 

•  I would also examine how they handle or keep their other things because their minds also affect them while keeping things. It elaborates on the situation that they are facing. 

•   I would make them draw beautiful cards that require calligraphy. By doing this, they would enjoy and will improve their writing skills at the same time. 

• I would make them take the right posture while doing or writing in notebooks.

"True aspirations generate a positive feeling in you and fire with enthusiasm. "

• Having said that, I would appreciate the child working in the class Or give chocolate or anything to take more interest in improving their work.

"Coming together is a beginning, keeping together is progress, working together is a success. " 

Love 

Love is a strong feeling towards something or someone. It's a mix of emotions, respect, and behaviour for the other person. Love can be defined in various ways. It can be the bond we share with our family members, friends and pets. Love is generally connected to a romantic feeling that we have for someone. 

2. 

    Student in a Romantic relationship:-

" It is said student life is golden life" Because in this time period, the character of a man/ woman is built; therefore, it is also called the Formative period of human life. Every student should try their best to make the best use of their student life. 

• I would approach the two students collectively and separately and make them understand the difference between "to like" and "to love" Someone's term. I would approach the girl as the girl is considered more mature and would make her understand the importance of studying and knowledge in life, and understand her about the stage where we acquire and identify our skills and goals in life. 

  

" The key to success is to focus on goals, not obstacles".

• I would make them understand the stages of life. That is a life everyone passes through a stage from being a student to an adult. So, this is a stage where you have to study and understand the world. You also come across a stage of loving others, but that comes after the student stage. You should not mix two stages together, because that would bring a Disbalance in life. Having a love relationship is a distraction to this identification. 

"Let us  always meet  with a smile, for the smile is the beginning of love."

    - Jyoti Joshi @JMMS, John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun 

Quality And Love - Ambika Gurung

Quality

A teacher knows the true meaning of quality; they provide the best for their students.

Every student has different qualities; some are good at reading, some are good at listening, some are good at the artwork, and some are good at everything. At some points for teachers, it becomes difficult to counter an individual's problem. And during our classwork and homework, we notice children submitting shoddy work to the teachers.

This problem can only be handle by keeping these things in mind:

#Connecting with the students:

Teachers shall always be able to connect with the students to help and understand their needs.

#Always try to give positive feedback:

Students like to get compliments, we teachers shall find out positive feedback as much as we can give to our students. They get boosted about it and try harder to do their job correctly.

#Find alone time to talk to them:

Showing them that you care by communicating and correcting them. If they like you, they'll listen to you more.

#Showing them concern:

Rather than pointing them out of the class, which eventually makes them feel embarrassed. We should always show a good gesture to tell them about their underperforming work.

#Try to know the real problem:

While dealing with such students, we try to figure out what the reasons could be. Teachers should talk to other teachers too, about whether the student is not performing well in their subjects as well. And also observe their behaviour inside and outside the classroom.

Approaching the Situation:

● Handle the students with care and let them know that they have the capabilities to do their work better.

● Talking about the topics they like so that they feel u remember things about them. If they like the teachers, they will listen and learn better.

● Telling them that you expect good things, they shouldn't feel we are always consistently trying to get back to them. The child should know that the teacher expects good work and it'll allow them to work hard.

● Approach their parents too to help them out at home and guide them about their child's needs.

Therefore, we teachers should develop authentic trusting relationships among our students. So that they register the ownership of what they haven't done correctly and try more to be on a better level. Eventually, they'll exceed the expectations that we put on them.

Love

Love is a lot of things; There are different ways to express love. To me, love is like a seedling; at first, it's delicate; it needs to be taken care of and nurtured if we want it to last through time.

If in my class the situation of a romantic relationship arises; I'll be happy to have a meaningful conversation with my students.

The important key points which we all should practice while dealing with such cases are as follows:

● Know your child's love language

● Share your own personal experience to connect better

● Talk with parents and let them understand their children to explore love.

As educators, we are very much aware that our students avoid the topic of Love because the elderly people around them have only lectured about it or never tried to make them understand the reality of Love. To their curiosity, they try to find out 'What Love is?' Children get immature thoughts on love as they may have been influenced by the movies or other means of media. Younger minds are needed to be prepared for love; before any other source helps them to learn a different love variant of love. The teachers must take the initiative to teach them about love; it requires sensitivity, and never avoid it.

How to approach the situation?

In a classroom, these cases may occur, and we should avoid directly pointing out their flaws. We should always:

● Have a good relationship:

With students, we should learn to give and receive from each other. Students instinctively seek lots of different experiences and try out different things. Try to hear their definition of love and have a good conversation.

● Comfort with the topic:

Teachers should handle the scenario by being their friend, not only as a teacher. Being a friend helps them reveal their feelings best, so at first, we should share our experience and then let them share their thoughts.

● Develop understanding:

We must tell them it's a natural part of our growing up stage; we develop these feelings much better when we are adults. Everyone goes through these changes because it's part of our existence.

Acknowledge them that we step towards love in variety we show love to our parents, grandparents, siblings, pets and friends. The children will understand that they will get opportunities to experience and explore love in different stages. And in the classroom or school, their love should be directed towards studies; which will help them to uncover themselves best with the capability of love.

- Ambika Gurung@JMMS John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun

Quality and love- Manmohan Kaur

Quality

1. A student who does a shoddy job with classwork and homework.

A) What, according to you, are the most important things to be kept in mind when dealing with such a case?

Ans. In my experience, this has been a widespread occurrence in every classroom. The first thing a teacher should keep in mind is that not all students function in the same way. Some grasp faster than others, while others do not pay much attention to their studies. Thus, every student requires personalized attention. This should be done with ample patience and tact.

Another fact that a teacher must not overlook is the environment provided to the student. A healthy environment will reflect on the students’ performance. This includes the classroom as well as the domestic environment. Parents of most of our students work jobs with long working hours and/or are uneducated. To add to it, intrafamily dynamics may also affect the overall mental health of the students. Hence, the teacher should be mindful of these factors.

B) Give an account of how you would approach the situation?

Ans. Taking the above-mentioned factors into account, I would take the following steps to deal with such a situation:

1. Firstly, I would lessen the amount of daily classwork and focus more on explaining to them the concepts of the study material.

2. I would identify their friends in class and have the students in question sit with them to share and solve each other's problems together.

3. Offering positive remarks, such as ‘Good work’, ‘Well done, ‘Excellent’, ‘Good Going’, ‘Keep it up’ etc., for any progress made can boost their morale.

4. Additionally, exhibiting their work on display boards would motivate them to work harder to seek their peers' admiration.

5. Keeping a check on the classroom environment is a must. I would look out for problematic behaviours among students, such as bullying, and school them about its effects.

6. Every month, an interactive session with their (students in question) parents shall be scheduled to update them on their ward(s) performance and assess the parents' attitude towards academics.

7. I would also ensure that the students know that they can contact their teachers after school hours. We as teachers can organise after-school handwriting improvement classes,doubt-clearance sessions or any other activity as per the students' needs.

8. If the students are struggling financially, I would provide them with school supplies such as notebooks, pencils, pens, etc.

9. It has been observed that students perform better when their parents take an active interest in academics. Hence, this is what I would aim to achieve with the parents.

10. Lastly, to let the students live a healthy childhood and enjoy other interests, I would assign them the least amount of homework. This would be crucial in preventing them from losing interest in their studies.

Love

2) Two underage students in a romantic relationship.

Ans. Romance is a kind of relationship between two people who are in love with each other. While the students at our school are pretty young, they are not aware of the concept of love.

Yet, in the many years, I have taught, I have not come across any two underage students in a romantic relationship. They experience love in all other ways. Even so, if I'm ever faced with such a situation, I would explain to them the meaning of romantic love. I would give them instances of all forms of love around them, for example, parental love, familial bonds and sibling affection. This would be necessary to make them understand that other than the bonds we are born into, choosing the romantic relationships one wants to commit to requires good decision-making skills, which comes with experience that the young students lack. It would also be beneficial to desensitize conservative Indian parents regarding this. Counselling them regarding their children's puberty in advance would give them ample time to prepare for their children's expected adolescent behaviour, including dating. This will help ensure the child's healthy growth in the most important years of their lives and build strong relationships with their own parents. 

It is important to note that being in a romantic relationship is nothing to be looked down upon but rather encouraged. However, it should be so only when the individuals are mature enough to think and consent for themselves. Thus, to conclude, this is how I would handle the situation in question.

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- Manmohan Kaur@JMMS, John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun

Quality and Love - Parineeta Negi

Quality

When we talk about the quality of anything, we are actually judgmental about that thing. We seek good or bad qualities in it. We are making the judgment according to our point of view. 

This can differ from person to person. For example- when we talk about a child’s behaviour, we judge him by his attitude towards others. His work and the way he behaves with elders and we come to a conclusion about that child. 

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Case1. A student who does a shoddy job with classwork and homework. 

First, we will identify the child's work and check him in person so that the child may not feel awkward in front of everybody. This may improve his quality of work. If there is no improvement, then a teacher needs to go deep into the child’s life and find the cause of his behaviour; counselling the child and developing the teacher's confidence will help solve the maximum problems of the student. A teacher can even sit closer to the child and guide him with love and care. In this procedure, a teacher must keep in mind that the child’s feelings are not hurt; he may not feel left out or embarrassed. With continuous efforts, the quality of the work of that child can be improved.

Love

It is actually the sense of care and respect for others. When we love anyone, we develop respect, care and understanding for the other person that can be our parents, friends, children or colleagues. Love brings us closer, develops understanding, and we share our happiness, joy and sorrows. As a teacher, we love our profession, and we respect all others at the same time. 

We care and help each other so that we can give our best to society. We love our students and try our best to make them the best to become good citizens and live happy life.

Case2. Two underage students in a romantic relationship. 

• If any such case comes to our knowledge, the first thing is to confirm whether it is true or not. 

• We can call the student separately, and counselling can be done. 

• We can make them understand that these situations are just the attraction that happens at this age, but they must focus on their future and think about their real ambition. 

• Diverting their thoughts towards the reality of life can help them grow and develop their life. 

• Talking to their parents and advising them to spend more time with their children can also help them think about their future. 

• The child will open up and talk without hesitation and surely will understand the drawbacks of such a relationship and focus on his future. Dealing with such situations, our approach should always be positive and for the betterment of society. A teacher should always care, love, understand, listen patiently and make them feel that we are always there to help them. The children will develop confidence and will love and always respect you.

- Parineeta Negi@JMMS, John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun