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Saturday, August 28, 2021

Quality and Love - Dolly Pharsi

A student who does a shoddy job with classwork and homework.
 QUALITY 
 “Ensuring quality higher education is one of the most important things we can do for 
 Future generation.” -Rown Lewis
 Quality education can provide a generation of young individuals who will be global citizens and work in a unity to solve problems on social, economic and other aspects and also create a  sustainable development for the community and in their own terms they will be world leaders.
➢ As there may be multiple reasons for a student to do shoddy job with the classwork 
and homework, the important things to kept in mind while dealing with such cases 
are:-
1. Talk to the student: - A conversation with the students will be very helpful to understand the reason behind his/her behaviour for not performing and a simple counselling may solve this problem. This should be the initial dealing that a teacher requires.
2. Learning disabilities:- We also need to assure that many students also go through learning disabilities like dyslexia, visual perceptual and many more which may affect their performance and these may be the major symptoms the child is not completing his/her work.
3. Not getting proper guidance:- As a teacher we have to assure that the students gets the proper guidance not just in school but when the child goes back to his/her home so that  they can perform better in their work also we should make sure to provide the proper 
pattern of guidance for each student requirement.
4. Maintaining positive attitude toward the student: - It is very essential that a teacher should maintain a positive attitude from the very beginning because than only a bond of trust will develop between the teacher and the student, he/she will be able to discuss their problem also share the reason behind their behaviour and after that only teacher can resolve the concern problem.
5. Praise students for performance: - Once the student starts performing accordingly if the slightest positive change is observed and an encouragement is necessary because it will assure the child that he/she is on the right path as well as it will motive just not him/her but other students too, which will develop confidence in the student and he/she will enhance in their performance.

Approach related to student who does a shoddy job with classwork and Homework
1. Conservation with the student: - All students have different strength and abilities, some students may never be excellent but talented as an artist, show interest in extra circular activities and good in sports etc. So it’s a teacher responsibility to analyse and give homework and classwork in a format that each student in a class is engaged in and different activities that lead them to perform better.
2. Circumstantial behaviour:-While dealing with the students we need to understand the circumstance (environment) around the child when he/she in the class or goes back to home are suitable or disturbing environment for him/her to study. May be the student sitting next to the child disturb him/her or the health of the child may not support same goes for the environment at home, parents are uneducated or due to the child is from humble background and they do not have enough sources like electricity or stationary support. There will be multiple reasons as such so we should help the students in managing and overcoming these problems.
3. Engaging activities and observing student participation:- The classwork and  homework should be given in a format which continuously develop interest of the child to perform better, giving student leadership role in classroom will make them understand the responsibility given to them and perform accordingly for e.g if a child does not present their homework/classwork daily give them a duty to help other students with their classwork and homework so to help other students the child has to finish 
their own work first which will make them understand their mistakes and vice-versa,  it will help them to complete their work in time.
4. Physical movements:- We should make sure that short breaks and extra time is given to the students to complete their homework and classwork because there may be multiple reasons for not performing e.g like some students need extra time because they are slower than others in understanding or completing their work also some students require short breaks as they loose interest if they are continuously studying they get stressed very easily and cannot concentrate, due to this some small breaks with some physical exercise or movement, will relax them and create more focus.
5. Seeking professional help and informing parents:-Asking for help or guidance from a school counsellor or a senior teacher may also point out that the teacher or a student is missing the link to resolve this problem. Teacher can also understand by discussing the specific requirement of that particular child so she can innovate different methods to build a positive outcome from the students also if a child continuous to show a similar pattern after a keen and regular observation it is the responsibility of a teacher to make parents aware of the situation and discuss possibilities to encourage students for the positive outcome.
Two underage students in a romantic relationship
➢ Important things to keep in mind when dealing with two underage students in a 
romantic relationship:-
1. Deal with the situation at most sensitivity:- As the two students may be underage but the situation should be handle with at most sensitivity and sincerity as the children also do hold an individual personality and if the situation handle causally it may affect them emotionally, mentally and physical.
2. Approach them friendly: - We should not create any unpleasant situation where the children feel uncomfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings. As they are moving towards their adolescence this is a common situation for a teacher.
3. Remind them about the boundaries: - We need to make them understand that they are students and they have to follow rules and regulations of the school and if any misconduct will not be tolerated. A clear message to the student will give teacher a chance to control the situation.
4. Not a control but an open door policy:- We need to make students aware that we are not controlling them but we care for them, and the kind of relationship they are in needs time to mature, they also needs to give time to each other to understand the complexity of a relationship while making them understand that we are creating an open door policy where they can come at us at any given situation and we will not judge them or create any pressure, we will make every effort to handle the any given situation sensibly. 
5. Parental Intervention:- If students failed to response in a positive manner after applying the said above dealings then parental intervention is necessary where the teacher may explain the situation to the parents in a calm way so both parents and teachers can handle the matter in more appropriate manner.

➢ In the given account if two underage students are involved in a romantic relationship how to approach in the given situation
1. Every choice has its own consequences: - We have to make student aware that every choice they are making will affect their present and future and they should behave accordingly and we should give them some time to mellow down their feelings or to realise and understand how the present situation will affect them.
2. Maintain behaviour: - Any kind of romantic affection in the premises of the school is not acceptable and they should behave in an appropriate manner and acts like touching or any physical contact will lead to a major consequences.
3. Differentiate between love and infatuation: As they are in a tender age and they need time to understand their feeling, they need to know what is love and infatuation as they are entering in new phase of age and they may be attracted to different qualities of different person and feel that its love but in reality that is just infatuation or attraction.
4. New phase of life: - We also need to make them understand that they are still growing, they will develop emotionally, mentally and physically till they reach adult hood and these kind of feelings will regularly emerge in their life so in such an earlier phase they should avoid getting romantically involved and in the present scenario, they should give them some time to understand that it’s too early for such matters.
5. Professional Help: We should seek a professional help from school counsellor in this matter as they have more understanding how to control such behaviour of students also in some extreme cases parents should be inform and involved from both the sides. 

Encourage conversations about feelings, friendships and family relationships, it can help your child feel confident to talk about relationships in general. If your child knows what respectful relationships look like in general? These conversations might mean that your child will feel more comfortable sharing feelings.

-Dolly Pharasi @JMMS, John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun 

Quality and Love - Sweta Thapli

Quality 

Quality is the characteristic that something or someone has. It refers to how good someone or something is in comparison to others.

When we talk of people, quality refers to the attribute or characteristics that they possess.

Case-I- A student who does a shoddy job with classwork and homework. 

 We can deal with such students by:

  • Finding out the reason- As a teacher, I will try to find out the reason that why the child is not performing well with homework or classwork. Maybe the child is going through some trauma or maybe he is facing some problem at his home. 

  • Praise their work and effort- We can appreciate another child in the classroom who are doing good with their work. Seeing everyone getting appreciated the child will focus on his study and he will be able to do his homework and classwork properly. 

We can also mention their academic achievements to the other teachers and also to the students.

  • Encourage the child- Encouraging a child will help them to achieve good results.  We should always be available to our students for their questions and concern as teachers.

  • Individual time- Spending individual time with the students help them to understand things properly and easily. This will help the teacher to get to know the child better.

  • Limited work- We should not give plenty of work to the students, this loses the interest of the students in doing things. We should give them less work so everyone can do it without any difficulty. 

Love

"Love yourself first and everything falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world." - Lucille Ball

Love is a strong feeling that you have when you like something very much. It is the feeling of liking a friend or any person in your family.

School is the place or extent to which students feel personally accepted, respected, included and supported by others in the school environment. 

It is the psychological feeling of attachment that makes the students want to go to school every day. 

Cave-II Two underage students in a romantic relationship. 

We can deal with this situation by: 

  • Not scolding them for things rather explaining to them that it is the age where you feel attached to someone. But that is not love it's just an attachment. Like:- you love dogs, chocolates, family and friends. You are attached to them. 

  • We can have an individual talk with both of them. 

  • We can have a discussion with the parents. 

  • Counselling can be done to both and explaining to them that at this age you must focus on your studies and your career. 

  • Explaining to them the importance and value of their time and their future.

There's a famous saying by Buddha:

When you like a flower you pluck it, but when you love a flower you water it daily...

-Sweta Thapli@JMMS, John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun 

Quality and love- Manmohan Kaur

Quality

1. A student who does a shoddy job with classwork and homework.

A) What, according to you, are the most important things to be kept in mind when dealing with such a case?

Ans. In my experience, this has been a widespread occurrence in every classroom. The first thing a teacher should keep in mind is that not all students function in the same way. Some grasp faster than others, while others do not pay much attention to their studies. Thus, every student requires personalized attention. This should be done with ample patience and tact.

Another fact that a teacher must not overlook is the environment provided to the student. A healthy environment will reflect on the students’ performance. This includes the classroom as well as the domestic environment. Parents of most of our students work jobs with long working hours and/or are uneducated. To add to it, intrafamily dynamics may also affect the overall mental health of the students. Hence, the teacher should be mindful of these factors.

B) Give an account of how you would approach the situation?

Ans. Taking the above-mentioned factors into account, I would take the following steps to deal with such a situation:

1. Firstly, I would lessen the amount of daily classwork and focus more on explaining to them the concepts of the study material.

2. I would identify their friends in class and have the students in question sit with them to share and solve each other's problems together.

3. Offering positive remarks, such as ‘Good work’, ‘Well done, ‘Excellent’, ‘Good Going’, ‘Keep it up’ etc., for any progress made can boost their morale.

4. Additionally, exhibiting their work on display boards would motivate them to work harder to seek their peers' admiration.

5. Keeping a check on the classroom environment is a must. I would look out for problematic behaviours among students, such as bullying, and school them about its effects.

6. Every month, an interactive session with their (students in question) parents shall be scheduled to update them on their ward(s) performance and assess the parents' attitude towards academics.

7. I would also ensure that the students know that they can contact their teachers after school hours. We as teachers can organise after-school handwriting improvement classes,doubt-clearance sessions or any other activity as per the students' needs.

8. If the students are struggling financially, I would provide them with school supplies such as notebooks, pencils, pens, etc.

9. It has been observed that students perform better when their parents take an active interest in academics. Hence, this is what I would aim to achieve with the parents.

10. Lastly, to let the students live a healthy childhood and enjoy other interests, I would assign them the least amount of homework. This would be crucial in preventing them from losing interest in their studies.


Love

2) Two underage students in a romantic relationship.

Ans. Romance is a kind of relationship between two people who are in love with each other. While the students at our school are pretty young, they are not aware of the concept of love.

Yet, in the many years, I have taught, I have not come across any two underage students in a romantic relationship. They experience love in all other ways. Even so, if I'm ever faced with such a situation, I would explain to them the meaning of romantic love. I would give them instances of all forms of love around them, for example, parental love, familial bonds and sibling affection. This would be necessary to make them understand that other than the bonds we are born into, choosing the romantic relationships one wants to commit to requires good decision-making skills, which comes with experience that the young students lack. It would also be beneficial to desensitize conservative Indian parents regarding this. Counselling them regarding their children's puberty in advance would give them ample time to prepare for their children's expected adolescent behaviour, including dating. This will help ensure the child's healthy growth in the most important years of their lives and build strong relationships with their own parents. 

It is important to note that being in a romantic relationship is nothing to be looked down upon but rather encouraged. However, it should be so only when the individuals are mature enough to think and consent for themselves. Thus, to conclude, this is how I would handle the situation in question.

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- Manmohan Kaur@JMMS, John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun

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