Quality and Love - Sonali Sharma

Case 1: A student who does a shoddy job with classwork and homework.

Quality- when we look around we most of the time think and observe how good or bad something is, we try to compare the level of our thinking, understanding to that of theirs outcome and the result, that’s what quality is. It is the ability to satisfy the given needs, a degree or grade of excellence. According to John Ruskin “Quality is never an accident. It is always the result of intelligent effort.” So in order to get quality in our work, we need intelligent efforts in continuity. So when we talk about the student doing a shoddy job with classwork and homework, it means there is a lack of accuracy, thoroughness, competence, time management and responsibility. In short, the student is lacking in the quality of work. We need to make it very clear to the students that school is the place where each child develops. In order to deal with such a case, we need to look at certain things:-

1. Know the student personally

We need to get to the words ‘Why’, why the child is doing such a shoddy job. ‘What’, what might be the reasons for the child to do such untidy work. Is the child not getting enough time for his work? Or is he not responsible? That all gets clear when there is a student-teacher relationship and when we try to build trust. Many times it is seen that the child does not perform well because of the family environment so we need to handle the family first and then
the student.

2. Help them observe their work with others (responsibility)

A child is able to learn more when he observes and experiences the things around him, so despite telling the child about his shoddy work, we need to help him observe his work with others and ask about the good and the bad qualities. We have to track the student’s progress by allowing them to see visually just how much they are learning and improving
as time goes on.

3. Personalized feedback

We have to take into consideration each individual child when giving feedback. We should remember that our classrooms are full of diverse students. A balance between not wanting to hurt a student’s feelings and providing proper encouragement is essential. We need to be sensitive to the individual needs of the student; we should always try to give the right and positive feedback.

4. Praising and rewarding the student

When we praise the student it builds self-confidence. It is not necessary that we need to praise and reward the student only when he/she performs excellent work but we should also appreciate them for their small efforts because only these small efforts will one day become the bigger one. Rewarding a child for certain behaviours and rewarding hard work is extremely important to encourage him to
continue doing it and improve it, so if the child is doing the shoddy work he will surely improve if we motivate and reward him for the small ones. Continuously rewarding a child for good actions will
motivate them to repeat them until it becomes a habit and that what
quality is, it is not a value but a habit.

Case 2- Two underage students in a romantic relationship

Love is a beautiful feeling that makes people happy. It is a set of emotions, behaviours, and beliefs with strong feelings of affection. For example, a person might say he/she loves his or her pet, loves freedom, or loves to read. The concept of love may become an unimaginable thing and also it may happen to each person in a particular way. It has a variety of feelings, emotions, and attitudes. It is the binding element that keeps a relationship strong and solid. 

According to H. Jackson Brown, Jr, Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own. When we need to explain this to the little ones. It becomes as difficult as to pin a medal on a shadow. They believe what they see and feel. In such a case when two underage students get into a romantic relationship, we need to handle this with patience and understand the situation well to make them understand true and pure love so that they understand it well. We need to deal this with certain things

1. Student-teacher relationship
In order to make the student understand what is right and wrong, we need to know the children personally and try to build the student-teacher relationship. If we scold the students for their behaviour it would get a very bad and negative impact on the student as well as on the whole class, but if we try to build a positive relationship with the students so the child will trust us and express his/her feelings properly, on the other hand, it will become easy for us to deal. We can use pets as an example while explaining to the students about love. Explaining to them the different essence of love will clear the concept in their minds and they will be clear regarding the concept.
2. Show Your Love for Environment
Before starting the lessons the teachers must ask the students regarding their love for their motherland, the plants, their families/friends and their school. By doing so the students will get involved in thinking of pure love rather than of a romantic relation, they will be encouraged to plant more trees on the earth day, and help their mothers in their homes as they have mother-child relation and so on. Doing activities like making a list of loved ones and finding the reasons behind their choice will clear the concept of their thinking about love and it will become easy for us to feel what their thinking is.
3. Talk about Loving Qualities
To teach how to identify loving qualities, the teacher can ask the child to remember a time when they met someone and what positive qualities they noticed about that person. “This person could be a teacher or a family friend. Then the students will be explaining why these people demonstrate qualities like love, what good did they see. Certainly, we can discuss some negative qualities as well to show the difference between good people and bad people.”
4. Responsibility
Telling the students about their responsibilities towards their families, nature, school, friends will somehow tell them their duties at the particular time. They themselves will realise that whatever they are doing is right or wrong. Talking particularly of love they will realise that anyone who has a loved one has felt the strong, undeniable impact of love on their decisions throughout life.
5. Love from teachers as well as the family
The love between the students and a teacher will build trust and strong understanding. Anyone who has a loved one has felt the strong, undeniable impact of love on them. Through this the children will be told easily that whatever they are doing is wrong they have a bigger way ahead of them and this is the time when they can develop the most and learn more. Anyone who has a loved one has felt the strong, undeniable impact of love on their decisions throughout life. In many cases, love changed lives and helped people to achieve incredible things they wouldn’t have achieved without it. However, most of the time it becomes difficult to explain the meaning of love. We need to tell all these things to the parents as well and ask them to spend more time with their children.

- Sonali Sharma @JMMS, John Martyn Memorial School, Salangaon, Dehradun

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