Affection Vs Rejection - Gitika Kapoor

Nurturing the wounded inner child

"Within every adult, there's a child longing to be loved and accepted."

As a grade 2 teacher with over 10 years of experience, I have had the privilege of witnessing countless children navigate the ups and downs of their young lives. One concept that has become increasingly important to me over the years is understanding the inner child.

The inner child is the vulnerable, sensitive part of ourselves that holds onto past experiences and emotions. When our inner child is hurt, it can manifest in various ways, often impacting our behaviour and relationships. 

One powerful example of this was a student I taught a few years ago who struggled with sharing and forming connections with his peers. Through discussions with his parents and observations in the classroom, I realized that his difficulty stemmed from a sense of abandonment and rejection he felt at home. By approaching him with empathy and understanding, I was able to help him gradually open up and build healthier relationships with his classmates.

Reflecting on my own experiences, I can also recall times when my inner child was wounded and affected my relationships at school. I remember feeling ignored by my peers in elementary school and carrying that sense of insecurity with me for years. It wasn't until I acknowledged and addressed that pain within myself that I was able to form deeper connections with others.

As teachers, it is crucial for us to recognize and support the inner child in our students. By creating a safe and nurturing environment, we can help them heal from past hurts and develop healthy coping mechanisms. This may involve offering a listening ear, providing opportunities for self-expression, or simply showing kindness and understanding.

Ultimately, by understanding and addressing our own inner child, we can better connect with our students and create a more compassionate and supportive learning community. As educators, let us continue to prioritize emotional well-being alongside academic growth, recognizing the profound impact it can have on our students' lives.


Gitika Kapoor 
Sunbeam International Varuna


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