Often, when we think about making a choice for ourselves—something we genuinely want—we suddenly pause. A voice inside whispers: "What will others think?"
This hesitation is not because our choice is wrong, but because we unknowingly begin doing someone else's task.
According to Adlerian theory, task separation is crucial. Our responsibility is to make choices aligned with our values and growth; what others think is their task, not ours. When we stop mixing these, we free ourselves to choose authentically.
This idea also connects to the concept of the Gordian Knot—instead of getting tangled in unnecessary complications (like worrying about judgments), we must cut through the knot and move forward with clarity.
Another powerful insight is not attaching ourselves to outcomes. When we tie our happiness to rewards, results, or praise, the joy of the journey disappears. But when we focus on the work itself—the effort, learning, and growth—the experience becomes meaningful.
The Bhagavad Gita beautifully echoes the same wisdom:
“कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन”
Do your duty, without attachment to the fruits.
