Showing posts with label disrespect. Show all posts
Showing posts with label disrespect. Show all posts

Wednesday, June 1, 2022

Honesty and Respect - Roopa Bhattacharyya

1. What are the most common instances of dishonest behaviour shown by students in class?

Children's behaviour is a reflection of the society that we live in. Some common instances of dishonest behaviour are – copying from another student during a test or allowing another to copy your work, unauthorized collaboration (sometimes even taking the help of commercial players for projects) on individual assignments to get high scores and sometimes even forgery!

Even small children believe that high scores/grades are most important ...... this is a reflection of the society we live in and particularly the values that the children imbibe at home.

A few years back in grade 2, a very naughty student used to do most of his classwork and get his notebooks corrected, but he rarely did his homework. He was always up to mischief and used to disturb other children. Children being naughty is normal, and other than counselling for disruptive behaviour, there is little that teachers can do.

He scored 6 out of 10 in English during the mid-term assessment, and his bench mate scored 10 on 10. What the child next did was shocking – he stole the answer sheet of his bench mate and replaced the name with his; he also rubbed out his name from his own answer sheet and replaced it with his bench mate's name and put the answer sheet in the bench mate's bag.

The truth emerged only during the next parent teacher meeting; when the bench mate's mother expressed surprise at his low score, I was surprised, as I vividly remembered giving him 10 on 10, and even the records showed 10 on 10. So, on examining the answer sheet, it was evident that the name had been rubbed out and over-written.

The child in question was counselled along with his parents and has not repeated such acts.

However, it is essential to understand why a 7-year-old would indulge in such an act of forgery... The reasons are:

a. Peer pressure to get high scores.

b. Living up to parents' expectations, even if the expectation is unrealistic.

c. Normalization of incorrect/illegal behaviour at home. A child does what he

sees, not what he is told!

2. How far is it true that you must show respect to earn respect in a classroom? Give an instance where you saw this play out.

You must indeed show respect to earn respect in a classroom. Respect encourages students to do their best. A teacher should keep calm, listen to students, use humour, not sarcasm, provide corrective feedback to foster student effort, and acknowledge student growth. Earning your students' respect requires you to be consistent, keep your word, control your frustration, learn who your students are, be patient and be kind. The key is to create the right environment where students are encouraged to ask questions and share their thoughts and ideas without the fear of being ridiculed or discouraged.

In grade 3, a student always raised his hand to answer in the class discussion but was always off the mark and talked about something unrelated to the topic. However, I ensured that he was always given a chance. One day I took him aside and explained that if he paid attention to the lessons and came prepared to the class, his contribution to the discussion would be better, and even other students would appreciate him. Within a few days, I noticed a marked change in his contributions to discussions.

When we examine this case, we realize that the student was seeking attention and once appropriately guided, he could bring out the best. A little bit of respect and trust is all it takes to create the right environment.


Roopa Bhattacharyya
Ahlcon Public School
JOL Cohort 2022

Tuesday, May 31, 2022

Honesty & Respect - Ms Nitin Sharma

Ms Nitin Sharma
Kamla Nehru Public School, Phagwara
JOL Cohort 2022

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Tuesday, May 12, 2020

Honesty and Respect - Swabhi Parmar

Honesty and Respect are the most important attributes that any individual should possess.
These two simple values lead us to live a better life. Honesty is a reflection of your own thoughts and feelings. If you want people to know who you are, be honest in your self-expression. Honesty shows maturity and self-acceptance.
Honesty can bring people closer by creating a safe connection. It forms a context for the relationship within which both parties feel secure enough to be genuine in their interactions. The relationship between students and teachers should be one of mutual respect. Students should listen to the teacher and try their best in the class. Teachers, on the other hand, need to do their best to give their students a quality education and respect them as individuals.
But how do we react when a child disrespects us? The solutions are not that simple if you, yourself do not have the quality of patience. A teacher should be capable of accepting and have the tendency of patience inside him or her. The suggestions could be, we should not react to disrespect but we should act to correct it. We should never overreact over the action of disrespect taken by the child. We should correct them and avoid their disrespect. This will create a feeling of sorry in the child from within.

Children should be always treated with respect and love. They should feel a kind of belonging with the teacher. Teachers should not be judgemental. A teacher should not take anything personally but be patient. There are situations in which we are not appreciated for the hard work we put in every work. We should not lose heart in this situation. We should keep up doing the good work. If it is not appreciated but someday it will inspire people. Respect is always a two-way street if we give it we get it. Same goes with the relationship between a teacher and a student. If we give respect to our children, they will give us the same. There is a saying if you want to see good in others we should be good in the first place. If honesty becomes an unconscious habit, you will become very attractive to other honest people and you will receive immense respect. A life filled with authentic people will be vastly enriched. 

Swabhi Parmar
The Fabindia School

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