'The Second Night' chapter highlights - Shalini Gupta

The Courage To Be Disliked - Saturday book reading session

Session 3 - The Second Night

'The Second Night' chapter highlights how many of our problems stem from interpersonal relationships. I believe that once we stop comparing ourselves to others, most of these issues lose their power. People often avoid stepping out of their comfort zones due to fear of rejection or failure. But acknowledging our weaknesses and working to overcome them is a far healthier way to grow than remaining stuck in fear or self-doubt. In essence, the line "whatever the worry that may arise, the shadows of other people are always present" captures why feelings of inferiority take root in our mindset.

Another key takeaway is that feeling inferior is natural and even healthy—it creates space for improvement. However, if left unaddressed, it can develop into an inferiority complex and, in its most extreme form, a superiority complex.  

Ultimately, the choice is ours: Rise above our weaknesses, or Raise them as shields!! I choose to rise above my weaknesses!! 

Shalini Gupta

Road Ahead - Sandeep Dutt on Radio Gham Chhaya

Episode Description

Sandeep Dutt carries a vast legacy - He is the owner of Tne English Book Depot - Dehradun's Century-old bookshop - he has turned his passion for books into sharing his knowledge with the world - an author, mountaineer, Chairman of The Fabindia School as well as a School Improvement Coach with 200 podcasts in his kitty - his practical knowledge is gems for those who are seeking paths for self-improvement. Hear him on our programme Path Pradarshan on Saturday - 28 January 2023, at 4.30 PM only on Radio Gham Chhaya at 90.0 FM #learningforward #joyoflearning #mygoodschool Radio Ghamchhaya is a Nepali Community Radio which is the first ever radio station established by the Gorkhali community, broadcasted in 3 languages, the radio station itself has a story.

Happiness and Tolerance - Invincible Alphians

Happiness is essential in life, and it comes from us only. We should not overthink. We should not hate anyone around us. We should always try to help people around us, then naturally we will have peace of mind and peace of mind is only happiness. 

7 Remarkably Powerful Keys to Happiness 

• Live (or work) at the moment. Don't get stressed thinking about things you have to do later on. ...
• Find resilience. ... 
• Manage your energy. ... 
• Do nothing. ...
• Treat yourself well. ...
• Venture outside your comfort zone. ...
• Show compassion outwardly.

We can say that Happiness is the feeling of truly enjoying your life and the desire to make the very best of it. Happiness is the "secret sauce" that can help us be and do our best. It has also been found that: Happy people are more successful.

जीवन मे सुख दुख निरन्तर चलते रहते है।खुश रहना और दूसरो को खुश रखना हमारे ही हाथ मे है।यह प्रकृति का नियम है कि जो हम दूसरो को देगे तो वही हमे भी दूसरो से मिलता है खुशी का नजरिया प्रत्येक व्यक्ति के लिए भिन्न भिन्न होता है।यदि हमारी वजह से किसी को खुशी मिलती है तो वो हमारी खुशी को कई गुना बढा देती है।

जिस प्रकार एक छोटे बच्चे के लिए मिट्टी या खिलौने के साथ खेलने मे जो खुशी मिलती है वही एक बडे व्यकित को धन कमाने और खर्च करने से मिलती है। कुछ लोग अपने परिवार मे खुशी ढूढते है कुछ लोग इन्हे धन से मानते है। लेकिन मेरे नजरिये से देखे तो यदि किसी भी कारण से मेरी वजह से किसी दूसरे व्यकित के जीवन मे आती है तो वो मेरी सबसे बडी दौलत(खुशी) है यही बात मै एक उदाहरण के दवारा समझाती हूँ।एक बार जब मै मन्दिर गई वहाँ मैने कुछ बच्चो को देखा।उनमे से एक बच्चा बढा और मुझे बहुत हसरत भरी नजरो से देखने लगा वो मेरे पास आकर बोला मुझे भूख लगी है मैने सुबह से कुछ नही खाया।मैने पास की दुकान से भोजन लेकर भोजन करवाया।उसने खूब भरपेट भोजन किया और वहाँ से चला गया।जब मै मन्दिर से बाहर निकली तो वो एक बूढी औरत के साथ खडा था शायद वो उसकी माँ थी वो हाथ जोड कर मुझे धन्यवाद दे रही थी उस समय जो माँ और पुत्र की आँखो मे जो खुशी की चमक थी उसे देखकर मुझे बहुत खुशी हुई।

इन्सान को हमेशा जो भी है उसी मे सन्तुष्ट व सहनशील रहना चाहिए। सहनशील व्यक्ति ही समाज का विकास कर सकता है सहनशीलता से व्यकि्त मे सहन करने की शक्ति  मिलती है यदि मनुष्य मे सहनशीलता की कमी होगी तो वो किसी भी परिस्थिति का सामना नही कर पाएगा।

सबसे अधिक सहनशीलता इस समाज मे नारी की मानी गई है इसीलिए स्त्री को सहनशीलता की देवी माना गया है।

 

Tolerance is also an essential thing in life. Tolerance does not mean giving up one's own way of life. Tolerance is following the motto  'Live and let Live'. Tolerance just understands another person’s beliefs and practices, and habits without necessarily accepting them or following them.

It is adjusting to others a little, giving up just a little to make someone else happy. It understands that everyone has more or less the same basic needs as oneself. It realises that ultimately everyone wants to be happy and peaceful. We should understand that following does not help others alone. It helps oneself greatly when one is tolerant, the mind expands, habitual selfish junk is replaced with fresh peacefulness and calmness.

Tolerance is an important concept that helps people to live together peacefully. Tolerance also means that you don't put your opinions above others, even when you are sure that you are right. Tolerant people show strength in that they can deal with different opinions and perspectives.

• Listen Carefully Without Jumping to Conclusions. ...

• Try to Understand the Other Person's Point of View. ...

• Agree to Disagree.

• Tolerance is patience toward a practice or opinion you disapprove of — Tolerance is being agreeable—listening carefully and treating the person with dignity and respect—while you disagree. ...

• Tolerance has limits—Reality is beyond opinion.

How one can achieve Tolerance?

Tolerance comes by practice. Nothing comes on its own; practice yourself to listen, wait and approach rules. This can be explained by the following examples:-

Tolerance is nothing in front of a mother who carried us in her womb for 10 months. That is the most beautiful as well painful tolerance ever one can compare.

Think about a soldier who is waiting for his next gunshot to hear by hiding inside the bushes.

A beggar hardly earns in a day and returns with an empty pocket and wake up with the tolerance level of hope to survive.

A photographer who waits for a year to just capture the fish to come out from the water.

In contrast, precocial birds spend hardly any time in the nest and are often seen wandering in search of food alongside their parents only hours after hatching.

There is no level called Zero tolerance. Life goes on its flow. Show your patience towards it and replace the word tolerance.

चित्र के माध्यम से यह बताने का प्रयास किया गया है कि जीवन मे खुशी के साथ गम भी जुडा हुआ है यह एक सिक्के के दो पहलू है। जब तक जीवन मे दुख नही होगा तो खुशी का अहसास कैसे होगा।

In short, we can say, Happiness and Tolerance are like two sides of the same coin.

1. Intolerant people can often be happy.

2. Unhappy people can often be tolerant.

3. Tolerant people are often also happy.

4. Happy people are often also tolerant.

Invincible Alphians at Alpha Beta School Jaipur - Om Prakash, Meenu Trehan, Vibha Gurtu, Heena Diwan and Ashraf Hussain