Humility and Appreciation - Flyers DGS

                                                             विद्या ददाति विनयम,

विनयम ददाति पात्रता।

Humility means being humble or grounded. It means putting others’ needs before our own and acknowledging that I am not always right. Humility enables us to stay open to new learning.  It prevents us from judging others, serves others and wins people. Humility makes us real & hopeful and gives us peace. Humility doesn’t mean to think about yourself, but to think less about yourself and more about others. It is the foundation stone of all the virtues. We cannot have a good personality if we are not humble. It helps us to think wisely. It means to appreciate others’ strengths and accept your mistakes or weaknesses.

Humble people do not try to impress others with titles, money, achievements, in fact, they just pull out the best in others. They are more responsible and handle stress more effectively.

Appreciation is a feeling of gratefulness. Appreciation makes us feel valued, responsible and acknowledged. It gives us confidence and motivates us to work hard. The word “appreciation” fills us with joy and zeal. It is difficult to work wholeheartedly in the absence of appreciation. Somewhere in the corner of our heart, we crave appreciation, it’s like medicine. But appreciation that is not real or honest loses its value. Only a real critic can honestly appreciate you.

One of our member shares, “Humility is the only virtue that can be practised in both success and failure. When I meet someone who radiates humility, my shoulder relaxes, my heart beats a little more quietly, and something inside me lets go. Why? Because I know that I'm being heard, fully seen and accepted for who I am. It allows my protective walls to come down. The same treatment I would like to give people who meet me or are in my circle. Humility allows us to make real-world. I accept the strengths and limitations of other people and of my own as well without defensiveness or judgement.

Appreciation has magical powers. I often appreciate things, behaviours and deeds that I want the person to repeat till it becomes his/her habit.  If there are some vices that I want the person to change, I appreciate his other qualities but remind him/her that his qualities are bigger than the small vices he/she has."

Another member writes, “A newly married girl once cooked a crooked shaped parantha for her father -in law for the first time she went inside the kitchen knowing deep inside that it was not as it should have been ... she apologized to her father-in-law while serving the same and also reassuring him that he would be served a perfect one next time as she did not know much of cooking... her HUMILITY! The father-in-law was all appreciation for the taste of parantha saying it was filled with love till the brim and he never had a better one till then ever...*quality of appreciation*!!

Today, the daughter -in law is the finest cook for family today.

प्रोत्साहन एक ऐसी चिंगारी है जो जीवन की निराशा, हताशा, नीरसता को एक ही शब्द से दूर भगा देती है ।जब व्यक्ति इस परिस्थिति से बाहर आता है तो वह समझ पाता है कि प्रोत्साहन देना ,प्रोत्साहित करना, प्रोत्साहित होना कितना बड़ा गुण है , कितना बड़ा सहारा है, संबलता का प्रतीक है। किसी भी सफल जीवन में विनय तथा प्रोत्साहन चोली दामन का संबंध रखते हैं। एक ही सिक्के के दो पहलू हैं।इन्हें समझना, संवारना तथा उपयोग में लाना मनुष्य के लिए अति आवश्यक है।

 विनम्र होने का मतलब होता है, दूसरों के प्रति लगातार ,बारंबार कृतज्ञता का भाव प्रकट करना। दूसरों के कार्य के प्रति सदैव आदर का भाव रखना। प्रोत्साहन वह चिंगारी है जोछिपी हुई, दबी हुई, शक्तियों को उजागर कर एक ऐसे स्तर पर ला लाकर उसे प्रज्वलित कर देता है कि कि प्रोत्साहित करने वाला व्यक्ति प्रोत्साहित होने वाला व्यक्ति अनुमान ही नहीं लगा सकते हैं असीम आकाश अब उनकी मुट्ठी मैं है।

संक्षिप्त में यह कह सकते हैं कि जहां हतोत्साहित करने वाले अपनी कल्पना में हारने वाले व्यक्ति के नुकसान को देखते हैं वही  विनम्र तथा प्रोत्साहित करने वाला व्यक्ति भावी भविष्य की उड़ान की परख रखते हैं।

Our humility teaches us to appreciate others’ qualities. One cannot appreciate anything until and unless one is humble. That means humility and appreciation go hand in hand.  Our Humility makes us approachable and Appreciation helps us to win hearts.

Written with co-operation by FLYERS DGS - Vijaya Jugran, Nandini Arora, Urvashi Uniyal, Vandana Goel, Bhumika Vyas & Ritika Tyagi - at The Doon Girls' School in Dehradun.