Afterword ”The Courage to Be Disliked”.

Masterclass concluded the discussion on the book.

The Courage to be Disliked and introduce the sequel The Courage to Be Happy

Key Takeaways

• Book 1 Concluded: The group finished Courage to be Disliked, clarifying that Adlerian psychology is a philosophy, not a falsifiable science, and that happiness requires continuous action.

• Book 2 Announced: The sequel, The Courage to be Happy, will be the next book, with a one-week break for participants to acquire copies.

• GSA’s Mission: The Good Schools Alliance (GSA) was introduced, focusing on its “3 Rs” (Reading, Reflection, Relationships) and “6 Cs” (Critical Thinking, Creativity, Collaboration, Communication, Character, Citizenship).

• Scholarship Initiative: A new scholarship program was launched to bring more Youth into the masterclass, with the first 3,000 INR donation funding a student from PYDS Learning Academy.

Topics

Concluding Courage to be Disliked

• The session concluded with the afterword, resolving the Youth’s scepticism about Adler’s ideas.

• Core Question: Is Adlerian psychology a science?

  • Answer: No, not in the strict sense of being falsifiable. It is a philosophy for practical use.

• Philosophy vs. Religion:

  • Religion: Explains the world via stories (e.g., gods).

  • Philosophy: Explains the world via abstract concepts.

  • Analogy: Philosophy is an endless walk on a pole of inquiry; religion is jumping off, satisfied with a final answer.

• Socratic Wisdom: The Philosopher’s stance aligns with Socrates’ “I know that I know nothing,” emphasising continuous learning over claiming absolute knowledge.

Introducing the Good Schools Alliance (GSA)

• Sandeep Dutt introduced GSA, the foundation running the masterclass.

• Mission: Focus on three Rs → Reading, Reflection, and Relationships.

• Framework: Develops “6 Cs” in participants:

  • Critical Thinking

  • Creativity

  • Collaboration

  • Communication

  • Character

  • Citizenship

• Programs:

  • Teachers Academy: Saturday sessions for educators.

  • MyGoodSchool: Sunday sessions for students.

• Resources:

  • Blog: HappyTeacher.in

  • YouTube: Session recordings and summaries.

New Participants & Scholarship Program

• New participants were introduced to diversify the group and bring fresh perspectives.

• Diana: Principal, PYDS Learning Academy (charitable school for underprivileged children in Uttarakhand).

• Rudra: Single father joining to learn about education.

• Khushie: 8th-grade student from Lotus Petal Foundation, attending on scholarship.

• Scholarship Program:

  • Goal: Bring more Youth into the masterclass.

  • Funding: The first 3,000 INR donation from Rudra will fund a scholarship for a student from Diana’s school (PYDS).

  • Rationale: Creates a “train-the-trainer” model, fostering dialogue between the student and principal to apply learnings in their school community.

Next Steps

• Group: Take a one-week break to acquire copies of The Courage to be Happy.

• Diana: Nominate a student from PYDS Learning Academy for the scholarship.

• Rudra: Connect with the scholarship recipient to foster dialogue.

• Sandeep Dutt: Begin The Courage to be Happy in the next session.
  
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The Path Forward: Self-Acceptance & Contribution

Read And Lead: Masterclass 2026: Reading from the book The Courage To Be Disliked by Fumitake Koga and Ichiro Kishimi, with Sandeep Dutt.

Discuss Adlerian psychology concepts from The Courage to Be Disliked.

Key Takeaways

• Horizontal Relationships: Establish relationships as equals to foster trust and shared responsibility, replacing vertical hierarchies that create dependency and enable responsibility-shirking.
• Worth on the Level of Being: Value people for their existence, not just their actions. This mindset enables gratitude for all, including newborns and the bedridden, and provides a foundation for self-worth.
• Self-Acceptance vs. Self-Affirmation: Accept your current self (e.g., a 60% score) as a starting point for improvement, rather than using false positivity (self-affirmation) that can lead to a superiority complex.
• Courage to Be Disliked: Overcome self-consciousness and the fear of judgment by acting authentically. This courage is the key to building genuine relationships and achieving happiness.
• Topics

The Problem: Self-Consciousness & Vertical Relationships

The Youth's self-consciousness (fear of judgment) prevents authentic expression, creating a "straitjacket" that stifles their "innocent self."

This fear is rooted in vertical relationships, which create hierarchies and dependency.

Example: Following a boss's orders to avoid conflict and then blaming the boss for failure is a "life lie" that shirks personal responsibility.

The Youth feels worthless because their job (sorting books) is unskilled and replaceable, leading them to believe they are "no one else but me" and not uniquely needed.

The Solution: Horizontal Relationships & Worth on the Level of Being

Horizontal Relationships: Treat all people as comrades and equals in consciousness.

Rationale: A single genuine horizontal relationship can transform one's entire lifestyle, gradually making all other interactions horizontal.

Practicality: This is about mindset, not ignoring social structures. It means asserting oneself respectfully and taking responsibility.

Worth on the Level of Being: Value a person's existence, not just their actions.

Rationale: This counters the Youth's initial view that worth derives solely from being "of use," thereby devaluing newborns, the elderly, and the bedridden.

Example: A mother in critical condition is still "of use" by being alive, providing psychological support to her family.

Gratitude: Express gratitude for existence itself, not just for specific acts.

Example: Instead of comparing a child to a perfect ideal and subtracting points, start from zero and be grateful for who they are.

The Path Forward: Self-Acceptance & Contribution

Community Feeling: The ultimate goal of interpersonal relationships.

Components: Self-acceptance, confidence in others, and contribution to others.

Action: "Someone has to start." You must initiate cooperation without waiting for others.

Self-Acceptance vs. Self-Affirmation:

Self-Affirmation: False positivity ("I am 100%") that can lead to a superiority complex.

Self-Acceptance: Honestly accepting your current self (e.g., a 60% score) as a starting point for improvement.

Principle: Focus on what you can change and accept what you cannot. This is "affirmative resignation," echoing the Serenity Prayer.

Next Steps

All Participants:

Apply the principle of self-acceptance by focusing on what you can change and accepting what you cannot.

Practice building horizontal relationships by treating others as equals in consciousness.

Cultivate the "courage to be disliked" to overcome self-consciousness and act authentically.

Tom and Jerry- Sunbeam School Varuna

In every classroom, playful chases and mischievous pranks between students create fun "Tom and Jerry" moments. Just like the classic cartoon, these interactions are full of energy, laughter, and sometimes friendly rivalry. While they add excitement to the learning environment, it's important to channel this energy positively—encouraging teamwork, discipline, and respect. 

This video explores how teachers can manage and transform these playful moments into valuable learning experiences.

Ankit Verma 

Ranjana Singh 

Alok Kumar Singh 

Abhishek Pratap Singh 

Aakash Aggrawal 

Sunbeam School Varuna

Live it up!

“Enjoy life. This is not a dress rehearsal.” 
- Author Unknown 


From Power of Now to The Prize, all espouse the life at the present moment. The young live for the present moment, and this is the best possible gift. While the grown ups one plan for the future and hope to live it, the young feel yesterday is a bore and tomorrow may not come...this is the life and that is where the challenge lies.


All strategic plans and crystal ball gazing has no meaning, if this one life is not lived with fun and more so by making the most of it. We the mentors have a lot to learn from this and need to ensure that there is more learning with fun and this is the most essential element to help us connect with the young. There is only one life, and we need to live this in harmony and not in contradiction with the youth. 


The young have aspirations that must be lived today, and not be retained as dreams for tomorrow. The now generation as the youth are often labelled, affirms the belief that life is now, they want it all instant, from food to fun and to learning. Today is the best time, with a free flow of knowledge and a virtual world, we have to make the most and make now the best time of our lives.