Amidst trickery and moral
turpitude, incidents related to honesty restore our hope in good over evil. So,
it did when the manager at Woodland Store in Delhi, Kohat Enclave branch,
returned an envelope of INR 48,000 to me that I forgot at the counter while shopping
for my son. I was fumbling through my purse to look for the credit card to make
the payment, and that is when I accidentally took out the envelope containing
the money and left it at the counter. It was only at night when I had to go
home to catch the night train to Dehradun, and I wanted to give both the kids
money, and I noticed that the packet was missing.I went back to that area
even though I wasn’t very hopeful. Despite the late hour, Woodland was open. I
entered the store and asked them if they had found any packet. I could see the
relief and smile on their faces. They told me that they had kept the store open
anticipating the customer to return looking for the envelope. After asking a
few questions regarding the envelope’s details, the manager handed over the
envelope. I profusely thanked them and took out some money as a token of
appreciation, but the entire staff refused to take any, saying they were only
doing what their call of duty expected them to. I understood that their
conscience would never let them do anything wrong.
I wrote a note of
appreciation and later sent an email to their country head talking about the
entire episode of leaving the strain of honesty intact. Honesty and respect are
interlinked concepts. The above incident earned so much goodwill and respect
for the staff of that store. To date, I never miss a chance to go back and show
my gratitude to them.
We, as teachers, should
strive to articulate expectations about academic integrity and the consequences
of cheating. Explicit norms and expectations stating that dishonesty is not an
acceptable trait should be laid down. Let us create a culture that rewards
success beyond grades. If students are also rewarded for their honesty, hard
work, determination, and respect for teachers and peers, they shall begin to
value the process of learning. This kind of culture fosters academic honesty
and discourages plagiarism.
As a little child, I was
made to do this activity from The Abraham Lincoln Center for Character
Development to instill honesty, which has left a lasting impression on my mind.
Activity – The Lie Trap
• Target grade level:
till Grade 5
• Character quality:
Honesty
1. Head outdoors with the
kids and hunt for a spider’s web, watch how a bug becomes entangled in the web,
catch a fly, put it in the web to see what happens, or find a video online of
that occurrence instead. The more the insect struggles, the more entangled it
becomes. If you are fortunate, you might even see the spider come and wind the
bug up in a more sticky thread.
2. Ask students what
happened every time the insect struggled and what happened because of that
struggle. Explain that the same thing happens when we do not tell the truth and
become entangled in lies. Ask students if
they think the insect regrets getting trapped in the web (and a lie) and what
should have been done instead (tell the truth).
We all make a conscious
effort to instil ethical standards and practices in our children. However,
they take time to imbibe the same and do tend to falter occasionally (don’t we
as adults?!?!). We should forgive their mistakes, resulting in
self-realization, and help them take corrective measures. Once they have
realized their mistake and borne the consequences, I am of the firm opinion
that we should not judge them on their past moral failings. Our intention
should be to correct the wrong and not the doer. The intention should be to use
dishonest behaviour as a teachable moment. Teach them to be candid with a fault.
The students should be taught to introspect, reflect, and learn from their
behaviour. We, as teachers, should be instrumental in helping them transform as
better human beings. They will turn into young men and women who shall hold
their teachers in high regard for placing their trust in them. I vividly
remember several students who have become exceptionally ethical, principled
gentlemen of high integrity.
I always give the example
of Abraham Lincoln as the epitome of honesty. To many kids, and even some
adults, Abraham Lincoln remains “Honest Abe.” Lincoln was far from a perfect
individual. He possessed human flaws and made many mistakes in his life, as we
all do. However, he learned from his
mistakes and learned to compensate for his shortcomings. He honed and practised
and developed them daily, and so should we. Powerful innumerable lessons from
his life on honesty must be continuously encouraged and integrated into every
fabric of society, and into both young and old. And let me pass along Lincoln’s
own words on the topic- “Resolve, to be honest at all events; and if, in your
own judgment, you cannot be an honest lawyer, resolve to be honest without
being a lawyer. Choose some other occupation.”
I want to conclude with a
piece of advice I gave to my tutorial group. The boys at the Doon School once
asked me about the fine line between honesty and deception and how to ensure
that they were treading the right path. I quoted from the famous collection
‘Letters from a Father to his Daughter’- “Let us make friends with the sun and
work in the light and do nothing secretly. And if you do so, my dear, you will
grow up a child of the light, unafraid and serene and unruffled, whatever may
happen.”
- Dr Mona Khanna, Vice Principal at Unison World School, she has joined the PLP Cohort for the Joy Of Learning Program at the John Martyn Memorial School in Salan Gaon near Dehradun, India Dr Khanna's professional profile - linkedin.com/in/mona-khanna-244198175
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