Rigorous Education and Student Empathy

Masterclass

To discuss Adlerian psychology concepts from The Courage to be Happy.

Key Takeaways

• Empathy is a Skill: Defined as imagining another’s life to understand their perspective, not merely agreeing with them (sympathy). It requires horizontal relationships built on mutual respect.

• Teleology Over Aetiology: Adlerian psychology asserts that present goals, not past causes, drive behaviour. The past is a subjective narrative constructed by the “self now” to justify current choices.

• Change Requires Courage: True change is difficult because it requires “death” of the old self. People resist this by affirming their current state and retroactively justifying their past to avoid the unknown.

• Respect is Contagious: Educators must model respect to teach it. This creates a “contagious” effect, building a community where others adopt the same attitude.

Topics

The Problem: Vertical Relationships & Sympathy

• The session began by challenging the traditional teacher-student dynamic, which is often vertical (authority-based).

• This model fosters sympathy (agreeing with feelings) instead of true empathy.

• The Youth character in the book argued that educators must prioritise scholastic results, not empathy, to be considered effective.

The Solution: Horizontal Relationships & Empathy

• The Philosopher advocated for horizontal relationships in which teachers and students interact as equals.

• Empathy Defined: A skill that involves imagining another’s life to understand their perspective and motivations.

• Contagious Respect: Modelling respect is the first step. Like a torch on a dark road, it shows others a path, eventually inspiring a community of shared respect.

The Rationale: Teleology & The Subjective Past

• The core of Adlerian psychology is teleology—the belief that behaviour is driven by present goals rather than past causes.

• Example: A person claims a “dark personality” due to a bad home environment (aetiology). Adlerian view: they chose that personality to achieve the goal of avoiding hurt (teleology).

• The past is a subjective narrative constructed by the “self now” to justify current choices.

• Example: A student who thanks a strict teacher later is affirming their current success and retroactively painting the past in a positive light to justify it.

The Challenge: Why Change is Difficult

• Change is difficult because it requires “death” of the old self—abandoning past habits and identities.

• This is a frightening prospect, so people often choose to affirm their current state, however unsatisfactory, to avoid the unknown.

• The Youth character’s resentment toward past teachers was interpreted as a way to justify an unsatisfactory “self now” by blaming the past.

Q&A: Clarifying “Human Beings Can Determine Themselves”

• Question (Vishaaka, Grade 6): What does “human beings can determine themselves at any time” mean?

• Answer (Sandeep Dutt): Your thoughts shape your present moment. By managing your thoughts, you can manage your life. This requires aligning your mind, consciousness, and thought.

Next Steps

• All Participants:

• Review the session recording and notes on www.happyteacher.in

• Join the next Masterclass on March 14.

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• FATHOM-AI Notes, read with care.

The Subjective Past: A Narrative of “Me Now”

Masterclass with Sandeep Dutt

To explore Adlerian psychology’s concepts of empathy, teleology, and the subjective nature of the past.

Key Takeaways

• Empathy is a Skill, Not Sympathy: Empathy is the active skill of imagining another’s life to understand their perspective, distinct from passive agreement (sympathy).

• Teleology Over Aetiology: Behaviour is driven by present goals, not past causes. The past is a tool used to justify current choices, not a determinant of them.

• The Past Is Subjective: Memory is a narrative constructed to affirm one’s “self now.” This explains why people recall strict teachers with gratitude (to affirm their current success) or resentment (to justify current dissatisfaction).

• Respect Is Contagious: Educators must model respect as an equal to students. This practice, like courage, spreads and builds a foundation for all relationships.

Topics

Empathy vs. Sympathy

• The session began by defining empathy as an active skill rather than a passive feeling.

• Empathy: The skill of imagining another’s life to understand their perspective.

  • Example: To understand a student who doesn’t study, imagine their specific life circumstances (age, home, friends) to grasp their motivations.

• Sympathy: Passive agreement with another’s opinions or feelings.

• Actionable Insight: Educators must “dive in” and show concern for students’ concerns, interacting with them as equals to build respect.

Teleology: The Power of Present Goals

• Adlerian psychology’s core principle is teleology—the idea that human behaviour is driven by present goals rather than past causes.

• Contrast:

  • Teleology (Future-focused): We act to achieve goals.

  • Aetiology (Past-focused): We are determined by past events.

• Example: A person with a “dark personality” isn’t a victim of a bad home environment (aetiology). They chose that personality to achieve the goal of avoiding hurt (teleology).

The Subjective Past: A Narrative of “Me Now”

• The past is a subjective narrative constructed to affirm one’s “self now.”

• Mechanism: To justify current choices, people select events from the past and assign meaning to them, while ignoring or erasing contradictory events.

• Example: A man bitten by a dog initially recalled only the attack, which supported his view of a dangerous world. When his worldview shifted to a safer one, he recalled being helped by a stranger, creating a new, affirming narrative.

• Application to Education: This explains why students recall strict teachers differently:

  • Gratitude: To affirm their current success.

  • Resentment: To justify current dissatisfaction.

History as a Manipulated Narrative

• The group discussed how this subjective principle applies to collective history.

• Insight: History is a “grand story” manipulated by those in power to legitimise their rule.

• Examples:

  • NCERT textbooks are periodically rewritten to reflect current political sentiment.

  • British history curricula often omit colonialism.

• Conclusion: The past, both personal and collective, is a tool for the present, not an objective reality.

Next Steps

• Priyanka Rathore: Share handwritten notes from the session in the WhatsApp group for collective reflection.

• All Participants: Review the session recording and notes before the next meeting.

• All Participants: The next masterclass is scheduled for March 7, 2026.

Fathom AI Notes, read with due care.

Kusum Sharma: How to get rid of negative thoughts?

It is very normal to experience negative thoughts in our life. In fact, they are part of our daily life. These negative thoughts are becoming a big problem of our life, bad thoughts can hurt us for days if we do not deal with them. They often come to our mind and we over analyze the situation, gradually one can get deep in depression.

The situation causes huge loses to our life. So when we have a lot of such kind of thoughts in our mind we should immediately understand the situation and try to start thinking in some positive way and should take help from a person whom you trust the most or one can write the thoughts in any diary and analyze the facts behind it.

Often bad thoughts persist when we feel guilty and nervous. We may feel angry when a bad thought suddenly comes to our mind. At that point in time, give a moment to address the thoughts and after that listen to your favourite music or take a short walk to clear your head.

When we get free time, we start questioning ourselves. Why do I always think about negative thoughts? If the situation still arises we should think that we cannot control the future. Past too cannot deal with the present, any problem is not ultimately much to spoil our happiness.

Sometimes we can read our favourite book, bake a favorite recipe, put on an album we enjoy from our youth. Few more experiments can be done like writing bad thoughts on a paper and then throw them away. Writing is a way of expressing our problems and physically getting rid of them. Think, it’s time to move on. Then gradually we will realize that the things are not as serious as we think.

• KUSUM SHARMA
• THE FABINDIA SCHOOL, BALI. EMAIL ksa4fab@gmail.com