Honesty and Respect - Aspiration JMMS

 (A)1. I didn’t do it, he started it 

When children fight in the class, and they are caught, this is the most common excuse they come up with, “I didn’t do it, he started it”. They lie because they don’t want to be caught and scolded or insulted in front of the class. They have self-respect in the class and try to protect it. One should listen to both the sides of the story and not make a judgment on the incident. If one has to say who is right, then one should say it calmly, without making the other child feeling bad. They should also be made responsible for their behaviour and make them realize that this behaviour is not accepted socially. 

2. Can I go to the washroom? 

 Often it has been noticed that if one child has gone to the washroom, his friends would also like to go. Usually, it is an escape strategy from the classroom. They like to take a break from the classroom and play in or near the washroom area. One forgets that children need to take a break in between. Studying different subjects back-to-back tires them. Usually, there is one break – that is the lunch break in the school, and it is not enough. If a child tells honestly that he needs a break, it would not be allowed. It is because the teacher is busy completing her lesson plan rather than seeing the need of the child and class. It is difficult, to be honest, yet one teaches that honesty is the best policy. The school needs to create a fearless environment where a child can express freely. It reminds of a poem by Rabindra Nath Tagore.

Where the mind is without fear and the head is held high;

Where knowledge is free;

Where the world has not been broken up into fragments

By narrow domestic walls;

Where words come out from the depth of truth;   

3.  आज होमवर्क नहीं मिला

अक्सर हमें बच्चों के द्वारा यह सुनने को मिलता है कि आज मुझे कोई गृह कार्य नहीं मिला ऐसा क्यों होता है? बच्चों को अक्सर याद नहीं रहता कि उनको किस विषय में गृह कार्य मिला है, और ऐसा भी होता है कि वह कार्य करना ही नहीं चाहते, अक्सर यह भी देखा जाता है कि बच्चों के  घर पर कोई उत्सव हो जो कि उनके गृह कार्य से ज्यादा  प्रिय हो इसीलिए बच्चे गृह कार्य करने से जी चुराते हैं। विद्यालय में इतने समय तक अध्ययन करने के बाद जब वह घर जाते हैं तब उन्हें लगता है, कि अब हमें खेलना चाहिए पढ़ाई- पढ़ाई बहुत हो चुकी है। इसीलिए होमवर्क नहीं करते।

बच्चों के माता-पिता और बच्चों को स्वयं भी अध्यापक द्वारा दिया गया गृह कार्य समझ नहीं आता।

 अध्यापक द्वारा ऐसा गृह कार्य दिया जाए, जो कि बच्चे को आसानी से समझ आ जाए।

शिक्षक द्वारा गृह कार्य अक्सर इसलिए दिया जाता है ताकि कक्षा में  दिए गए कार्य की पुनरावृत्ति बच्चा घर में कर ले और उसे पाठ आसानी से समझ में आ जाए। अब शिक्षक को चाहिए कि बच्चों को ऐसा गृह कार्य दिया जाए    जो बच्चों को आसानी से समझ आ जाए और  करने में बच्चों में रुचि पैदा हो।

It is imperative to show respect to earn respect in the classroom. Everybody has self-respect and wants to be respected. When respected, one feels loved and does not feel awkward or has any inhibitions to express himself. A child with special needs in our class was having difficulties in the class with his peers. He was bullied by his friends. We gave him space to be himself and accepted his needs. This influenced class. They became patient and started including him in their games, and he became part of the class. Treating him with respect and kindness helped the class, to understand that they cannot treat differently to him. Everybody deserves respect.        

- Aspiration JMMS @ John Martyn Memorial School, Salan Gaon, Dehradun - Renu Raturi, Sandhya Thadani, Sonali Sharma and Asha Bhandari

Importance of Self Respect - Prakash Dangi

Self Respect is a quality which is extremely important for the dignity, confidence and personality of an individual. People with self-respect have the courage of accepting their mistakes. They exhibit a certain toughness, a kind of moral courage, and they display character. Without self-respect, one becomes an unwilling audience of one’s failing both real and imaginary. A self-respecting person accepts responsibilities for one’s own life and its this source from which self respect springs. Such people are always willing to accept risks. They invest something of themselves in what they undertake to do, and when they play, they know the odds. 

Self-respect is a kind of discipline, a habit of the mind that can never fail an individual. Need to remember that respect for ourselves guides our morals, while rasped for others guides our manners for winning the respect of others, we need to respect our own selves first. There are endless potentialities in each of us. Hence we need to believe in our strengths, and we need to repeat! Only when we love ourselves, gain confidence in our abilities believe in them, and when we have a positive, healthy self-image will others respect us.

Prakash Dangi

The Fabindia School

pda@fabindiaschools.in

Honesty and Respect - Byju Joseph

Honesty is one of the most important moral values to possess and practice everyone. It helps to develop discipline, respect, kindness etc. Being educators what is our role? What are the things that we can do to inculcate the moral values in the present and coming generations? Education does not mean acquiring knowledge in a certain field. It means the all-round development of an individual. At present, the educational system is value-based. By education, a trustworthy, and honest, a dedicated and respectful generation should be evolved. The new generation thus coming out should be able to face the world fearlessly and should be able to solve the issues in a sustainable manner. 

There is a proverb “HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY”. It makes clear that honesty is the best way to achieve success. People often say that the truth is God and that only honest men are entitled to heaven. Even if a person does not believe in God he should be honest, if he wishes to succeed in the world. If a man is honest people will trust him and will be willing to have dealings with him. Honesty is, therefore, the best policy. Honesty makes a person free of all troubles and fearless and it leads him to mental satisfaction and happiness.  

Honesty and Respect are related to each other. If we are honest in all aspects, others will respect us. ‘Respect is the reward for being honest.’ It is something that we cannot buy or cannot take from others forcefully. It naturally comes as a result of our behaviour. As human nature, it is deeply existing in our mind that everyone should respect us every time without thinking whether it is deserved or not. If we want respect from others, we should respect others more. We should respect not only other people but also their properties or belongings. Self-respect is very important in this regard. 

If we consider the life of a human being we can understand how he develops the quality of respect. At an early childhood or before schooling, he learns many things from his parents. Parents usually tell their child to wish and get blessings by touching feet or by other ways when relatives or elders come to their home. When parents take their child to get admission in the school, they tell, ‘This is your teacher and this is the principal, wish them.’ The child obeys and at the same time, he observes his parents and others what they are doing. By these small things or happenings, gradually an admiration towards parents and others germinates in the child. This admiration towards others slowly changes to respect and develops in the child. Further nourishment he gets from the school.

Byju P. Joseph
The Fabindia School