Showing posts with label trouble. Show all posts
Showing posts with label trouble. Show all posts

Saturday, June 6, 2026

Empathise and Connect with high-risk Teenage Behaviour to address it.

Learning Forward Saturday

To understand and address high-risk teenage behaviour through empathy and connection.

Key Takeaways

  • Teen behaviour is often biological rather than rebellious. The developing teen brain drives risk-taking, making empathy and education more effective than punishment.

  • Punishment is counterproductive. Suspension and expulsion create “alienation”—the very isolation teens seek to escape—and worsen the problem.

  • “Academic Connection” is the solution. This approach values student effort and problem-solving, creating a supportive environment that provides a natural “high” from success.

  • Teachers are the frontline defence. By building trust and making learning engaging, they provide the “shelter of loved ones” that gives students the confidence to resist peer pressure.

Topics

The Problem: Volatile Substance Abuse (BSA)

  • The session explored Volatile Substance Abuse (BSA), a serious, often fatal, health hazard.

  • Definition: Deliberate inhalation of volatile solvents (e.g., diluters, nail polish remover, glue) for intoxication.

  • Motivation: Driven by psychological factors, not physical addiction.

    • Peer pressure and the desire to belong

    • The thrill of risk-taking

    • A misguided attempt to gain attention

The Flawed Solution: Punishment & Alienation

  • Punishment (detention, suspension, expulsion) is a counterproductive response to BSA.

  • Rationale: It creates “alienation”—the isolation teens are trying to escape—and thus exacerbates the problem instead of solving it.

The Effective Solution: Empathy & Connection

  • An empathetic approach, combined with strong parent-teacher collaboration, is required.

  • “Academic Connection” (Alan Mendler): A key strategy that values student thoughts, problem-solving, and effort.

    • Outcome: Creates a positive learning environment where students feel enthused to face challenges.

  • Teacher’s Role:

    • Build Trust: Create a “culture of trust and learning” to prevent students from seeking risky alternatives.

    • Engage Students: Make school experiences interesting and relevant to keep students engaged and feeling valued.

    • Provide a “Shelter”: Offer a supportive environment that gives students the confidence to say “no” to peer pressure.

Real-World Application & Teacher Reflections

  • Rekha Sharma: Built a personal connection with a nervous student, helping them overcome fear and win a competition.

  • Pratiksha Dhiman: Connects with students individually during notebook checks, creating a safe space for them to share problems.

  • Sandeep Dutt: Shared a poem highlighting the teacher’s multifaceted role as a counsellor, confidant, and guide.

Next Steps

  • Sneha: Share the following in the WhatsApp group:

    • The term “Academic Connection” and Alan Mendler’s book, Connecting with Students to Limit High-Risk Behaviours.

    • The quote on analysing behaviour rationally and finding scientific causes.

    • The link to the “Right vs. Wrong” chapter summary podcast.

  • All Participants:

    • Research “Academic Connection” and share reflections in the WhatsApp group.

    • Share personal experiences of helping students overcome fear or alienation. 

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Thursday, November 19, 2020

Think before you Speak - Shivani Rao

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Speaking before you think is a bad habit that can get you into trouble and hurt you in the most important areas of your life. Relationships will suffer or end, your career will be stalled at a level far below your talents, and most importantly, you will have little confidence in yourself.

Your speech shapes your life. Time and again you find yourself in situations where the outcome depends on what you say and how you say it. Your words are a reflection of who you are. If your words are getting you into trouble, you’re showing others the very worst parts of you. You’re presenting yourself as being thoughtless, careless or just plain hurtful.

Not only do your words create a positive or negative reaction in the world around you; your speech influences your thinking and can alter the course of your future.  When your words are harsh, negative, inconsiderate, or judgmental then these are the aspects of your experience that are emphasized. It won’t be long before you have developed the habit of always focusing your thoughts on the darker side of life. 

If you speak before you think about what you’re going to say, you do not take the time to consider what words you will use, what these words will mean to another person, or how they will feel about what you’re saying. You are also not thinking about what these words say about you as a person or about all of the good things you may be neglecting to focus on.


Shivani Rao
The Fabindia School
sro@fabindiaschools.in

Monday, May 25, 2020

Trust and Simplicity - Kusum Sharma

Trust and Simplicity are very important values for our valuable life. These two values are
very well connected to each other because if a person is simple and reachable then everyone feels a personal connection with him and it's easier to share anything with him and this automatically makes him trustworthy.

With reference to this situation, before a few days ago I was explaining a few important points to students in the classroom and all students were responding well, but a girl who was new in that class and was sitting in a corner of the last bench. It seems that the girl is not able to understand the topics.

I went to her and asked the reason for her intimidation and she didn't answer and was rather sitting quietly and looking into her book. Suddenly a senior girl from class XII entered the classroom due to some necessary work. She was very good in  Social Science topics. I briefed her about the new girl and requested her to talk to her and find out the reason for her trouble. 

I told that shy girl to go out for a few minutes and talked to the senior girl regarding that topic. Both the girls went out for some time. After a healthy conversation, they both became good friends and the senior girl also taught her the way to learn the topics. The simplicity of that senior girl built a great trust, such that now the new girl has completely changed herself and started taking part in all class activities.


Kusum Sharma, The Fabindia School

Sunday, October 20, 2019

Ishu Chouhan: FRIENDSHIP

Friendship as the word is used many times but do we actually know the meaning of friendship. The first thing when we join our school and strikes our mind is how we will make friends? Will they be good to us or will they cheat us, help us put us more in trouble?

I would like to tell you that what friendship actually means? As nowadays we are reading memes on social media regarding friendship, relations etc. We are almost clear with the word friendship. But what about a small kid. He/she doesn’t know how to make a friend and to whom. So for a child, they enjoy the company who plays with them he/she shares the stuff. Generally, it is only the people of the same age, character and background, mentality, etc., who can understand him/her and understand his problems. Friends are needed for support and for sharing. Friendship is an elixir which is essential for a happy life. Besides being a companion for activities, the best of friends also need to provide emotional support. This is often where friends and best friends divide. As you get to know someone, you want to know if they have the same values as you. 
                                                                                                               -Ishu Chauhan

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