Honesty & Respect - I“The high road is always respected. Honesty and Integrity is always rewarded.”---Scott Hamilton.
Honesty, and broadly integrity, are important traits in one’s academic and professional life. In school, a healthy student-teacher relationship comes from mutual respect and trust; these can further lead to the building of nascent characters. Common civilisational values build an honour code in individuals that can act as a beacon all through their lives.
In the little world of my classroom, when I ask a question,
students need to raise their hands first, wait for me to call upon them before
they get to answer. Sam would never volunteer to answer. Whenever I asked him if
he had understood the concept, he would keep an embarrassing silence until the
student sitting beside him prompted the answer to him. Most often, Sam’s
answers would be fashioned from these prompts. I explained to everyone that prompting
their friends was a hindrance to learning, never a help, as I would never come
to know whether Sam had actually understood the concept or had merely repeated another’s the answer.
Cut to the test day. As was the norm
with me, I reminded everyone to focus on their own papers and not others’. While
correcting the answer scripts, I was shocked at Sam’s poor performance. The
next day, I asked him what had happened in the test. He ruefully told me that
he had not prepared for the test and added,
“I did not want
to copy from my partner’s paper as I really was unaware of the answers”.
More than his grades, I appreciated him for
his honesty and sincere approach to learning. Sam was able to tell me the truth
as he believed that I would respect his standpoint. Well, he had also earned my
respect. His parents were emotional when this incident was brought to their
notice. It was important for them too, to look beyond his marks in comparison
to his classmates.
Honesty is more than being truthful. Honesty refers to
being morally correct – which in turn, is bound to earn respect. Sam, though
different from others, was accepted by all for his integrity and had succeeded
in building a network based on respect.
“Speak with honesty, think with sincerity, and act with integrity.”---Anonymous
Honesty & Respect -II
I returned the corrected worksheets and began discussing the answers. By the end of the class, this very bright teenager, with a reputation for not only disturbing the class but also instigating others to follow suit, came up to me. He grudgingly pointed out my ‘mistakes’ or ‘perhaps oversight’ (in his words) in my corrections.
I could immediately discern that these changes in the
answers had been his handiwork in the last few minutes. The correct answers
were either too carefully written or stood out of a mess of scratches. Clearly,
the child was not yet masterful in his questionable ways. Not just yet.I studied all my ‘oversights’ and his apparently ‘correct’ answers carefully. Calling him aside, I asked him twice – “Are you sure?” The second time, he did not look at me as he nodded.
I took his worksheet and marked him 25/25. I told him
that I would be uploading the marks the following day. So, he needed to think
and answer with complete certitude if he truly deserved a 100% score. After
all, he was seeking fairness.
The next day, he gave me a note from his mother, still
avoiding my eyes. The note said how my words had made him think, but he could
not undo the damage when he had chosen to go on with his lies - that being the
easier way out. She thanked me for making her son introspect and reject the
wrong path. After expressing her gratitude, she requested a favour. Since the
boy could not own up (being afraid to create a poor impression at the beginning
of the academic year), could I forgive and help him?
In the next little discussion that we had (out, in the
corridor), I acknowledged his ability to see the truth for what it was, irrespective of how daunting this might have been for a youngster. I changed the marks to the actual
figure he had secured but told him that he had scored 100% as a human being in
my eyes.
Strangely, I did not encounter any disturbance in the class in the two years I taught it.
When we treat people merely as they are, they will
remain as they are. When we treat them as they should be, they will strive
towards attaining that potential. (Inspired by T.S. Monson's words)
Penta @ Billabong High International School, Thane
- Jeeji Sanjeev, Sanika Joshi, Arpita M.G., Radhika Anand, Muskaan Menda, Supriya Naravankar & Bhavani Swamy